I understand how you feel. My Mom did the same to my elder brother, my brother was very angry @ my parents until he had his own kid. You did the best you could under the circumstances. Talk to your daughter, she will understand one day. Take care of yourself. I did not understand my parents until I have my own kids. Sometime, we have to make choices that can't be perfect. Don't blame yourself. Don't mind other people's comment. I belive that you have been the best Mom you can be. Very proud of you.