That's true

这个是我最担心的，如果我女儿一旦被picked on，那就晚了而且比较难阻止。我已经给老师发了email，描述了一下发生了什么，询问她有什么建议，老师的回答是：

"I am aware of the issue, but it is not specifically directed at xxx or because of specific dislike towards her, rather they are hurtful words that are being used to compete.  This is something Ms. xxx(TA) and I have been working on continuously.... please try to encourage xxxx to always tell them that their words are hurtful and to stop first and then to always tell an adult if it continues, this helps us to track what's going on."

我们订了下周二面谈，她说她会 给我更多details。我也觉得不能告诉女儿说ignore her， 得让她tell them stop， 而且不能talk mean words to others， 否则别人就有借口了。我这两天继续观察一下，看看有什么状况。