to make decision

I am at work now, but could not concentrate on it. I had a big fight with son last night since he did not study at home at all; and his grade is ABABAB, no honor no AP, he is at Grade 10^th already. Now I am confused for two choices:

 

1.  Give him up completely, does not care about his grades, let him grow up by himself and he is responsible for his own’s future, and I will concentrate on my own’s work. We will just follow the current rules, like he has no computer game during weekday, Friday five hours, Saturday three hours and Sunday two hours. He just watches TV if he could not play computer game.

 

2. Cancel the internet; and I will write him a letter to say that I will leave the home temporally until he called me to say he will spend time on study. We do not know what is his 软肋, the only thing we can think about is the internet game. To do so, the risk is that he won’t call me, and I have to go back home by myself.

 

Thanks for any input.

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• 你儿子的说辞是什么？ -虎妞- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:01:38

• 我觉得2 不可取，1 听着挺好。我朋友里好几个孩子高中毕业时gpa是low 3的，现在 -虎崽羊妞- ♀ (131 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:08:18

• 这个年龄2只能激化矛盾，并不能解决矛盾，能做到1也挺不错了 -芦苇葱葱- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:13:34

• 当然是1. 当妈的出走做给儿子看，成何体统？ --realblue-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:16:58

• and most likely she'll come back by herself. : ))) -blackmatter- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:40:33

• 你是说你自己要用离家出走来要挟吗？他那么大了，肯定不会怕的！ -寒枝- ♀ (672 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:18:49

• LZ估计自己工作忙，对儿子只寻求快速解决法。看看她过去的问题，不是掐网就是掐电视。 --realblue-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:27:53

• yes, I have six production plants to take care, Phd thesis, Gree -300600- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:31:10

• 既然你选择了忽略孩子，把大部分时间和精力放在工作上，就不要对他诸多要求。 -寒枝- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:35:16

• 没有中间路线吗？好像都是放弃主义。 -study- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 09:21:36

• 淡定，耐心，不要走极端 -tn_tc- ♂ (799 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 10:02:37

• "你知道他为什么得A为什么得B吗？" -Big_Benz- ♂ (1053 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 10:12:59

• 高中课后不学习作业几小时还是难以拿到A的。如果有课外活动，就更忙了。 -tn_tc- ♂ (0 bytes) () 11/18/2010 postreply 10:25:41