Exactly what I have been thinking. I cannot say our parents do not love us; they do, but my mom's way is hard for me to accept and appreciate. So the best solution is to leave apart.
In my mom's case, should also add her face, her face, and her face, for which she could even speak nonsense about our family matters in front of other people, inlcuding showing my salary stub to her cards partners and then told me "oh, my friends say even an illegal immigrant working in Chinese restaurant can earn more than this amount, how can a PhD earn so little?" Or when my friends praise my hu*****and in front of her, she just say the opposite. As a matter of fact, I barely remember she ever praised anybody. I cannot understand what she would gain by doing all these. Sometimes when I argue with her, she would say "is there anything wrong? Can I not tell the truth? I am just honest!" To my eyes, such honesty is simply selfishness.
