回复：你想听这些话？我明白了，你想对父亲说这些，可是又犹豫。

Yes, I 犹豫. Because

1. He just recovered from sickness ( 中风 ).

2. He live separately with my mam. ( My mam live with my aunt ). If I stop give him money later, I am worried that he will bother my mam again.
He used to ask money from my mam, when I start to earn money, I told him that I will give him. So he stop asking money from my mam.

3. If I continue to give him money ( I used to give him $10K each half year ), he will continue to waste like that, and when he meet urgent needs, he will ask for me. I have to support my own family, house and kid as well.

My mam used to fight with him a lot before, complain he waste money. Now she totally give up, that's why they live separately.

When I can't reach my dad just now, I called my mam and tell him about it. She told me to calm down, and don't be mad, because he is like that through his life. Never changed. But the problem is: What should I do now?

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• don't give him less money and send money multiple times -xchmm- ♀ (97 bytes) () 12/26/2009 postreply 23:33:12

• Give him less money each time and send money multiple times -xchmm- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/26/2009 postreply 23:34:05

• If his retirement money is enough for a living in your hometown -xchmm- ♀ (117 bytes) () 12/26/2009 postreply 23:35:59

• I am thinking about that too. -taro_g- ♀ (298 bytes) () 12/26/2009 postreply 23:36:56

• I'd take 碧云's idea. Losing job is a good excuse -xchmm- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/26/2009 postreply 23:38:36

• Tell your dad you cannot support him until you find a new job. -碧云-- ♀ (82 bytes) () 12/26/2009 postreply 23:35:33

• It's not totally about TV -taro_g- ♀ (336 bytes) () 12/26/2009 postreply 23:41:49

• you need to -胡桃架子-- ♀ (33 bytes) () 12/26/2009 postreply 23:51:08