From what she disclosed in her postings, if it is true,

I think her marriage has been poorly-founded and it is coming to end. Of course, it is not necessary to divorce, because they have 2 teenagers.

If I were she, I would give up all the dreams and focus on the reality. For example, buy a cheap health care insurance from the school for the two kids, re-budget the finance to make sure the house is secure. Absolutely no fighting with the man, because it is a waste of time. I think she absolutely knows what kind of man his hu*****and is. When you find that you cannot affect somebody, you had better stop trying to do that.