Thank You, level4

I really appreciate your help.
I tried to tell the things as close as possible and I don't care if people is saying I did more things wrong-if that's the case, I can just correct my mistakes - this is why my kids never blame on me even if sometimes I had bad temper on them.I am not afraid to applogize.Our kids get used to ask me for help more.
He is stubborn. His bad attitude to our teenage is much worse than my bad temper. That has never been forgiven by either me or our son and that attitude might cause legal issue if he continues.
Also, I am not saying we can't allow in-laws come. I just hate his attitude that he is not discussing with me in advance which hurts my feeling so much that he forces me to accept.It sounds like he is playing some trick for the purpose to reach his goal. When I told him I am not happy about this way, he looked down upon me as if I am a very mean/bad person who doesn't even allow in-laws to visit for a short time. He never thinks he deserves to appologize to me for his wrong way of handling things. He seldom appologizes. He seldom admiring me or show his love/care to me. When I had bad temper, I just talked about some specifical thing. Then he began to get the conclusion to complain my personality.
Honest to say, I also don't want to keep this marriage because I don't see any hope that he can be changed. And I will not sign any document to let any others living in the current house which I am supporting half payment.If he remarried or need to support his parents permanently, he will lose his physical custody because this impacts the kids. We agreed that no matter who takes physical custody, if the kids are not satisfied, we will switch the role.