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"反将你工资的五分之三强，判给我与儿女, 房子归我们"
你一走了之, 令我和儿女生活陷入困顿 - You ex has to pay tax and got only less than 2/5 income to support him, her and their child(ren). You got 3/5 and the house, your life should be much better than him now or before divorce financially. 如果我想选择, 就有比你更有魅力之男士在我身边. Why complain?

You sounds victory that 房子归我们, then wrote "你把房子上的钱全部贷走, 留下巨大的我这辈子也无法还清的贷款。" If he got house loan (1st or 2nd morgage) under his name only, he is responsible for the loan. If your name on the loan, he couldn't 把房子上的钱全部贷走 (assume 2nd morgage to full house value) without your approval. What's the true story?

What kind of person you were before divorce - 不知足,不知恩,不惜福, 自我, 贪吃的人，视一切为当然??? (从一个不知足的人, 变成一个知恩惜福, 到完全放下自我, 只时刻想帮助别人的人；从一个贪吃的人，到一个珍惜粮食, 惜钱财, 并不忍伤害一切有生命的物体的素食者；从一个自以为富有, 视一切为当然，到接受别人施恩)