我很笨, 我很无能, 所以我越来越懦弱. 该怎么办?

公司里面有一个美国焊妇,大个子,话多, 平时喜欢开玩笑, 但对我很不友好.经常讽刺中国人.老是说一些让我很难受的话.我笨, 性格不强硬,反应慢,从来没有遇到攻击性这么强的人, 受到她的攻击有时候都反击不来.大家经常一起吃中午饭,SHARE FOOD. 当吃不完的时候,她老是当着所有人的面说, DON'T WORRY, xx WILL EAT ALL THE LEFT OVERS. 昨天吃完饭又说, xx HOW ABOUT THE LEFT OVERS? AREN'T YOU GOING TO FINISH?

我很难受,关键我我觉得作为中国人让她觉得中国人好欺负, 其他什么体操年龄的事情我都当着大家的面告诉她没有证据前请不要乱讲, 但是她老是说我吃LEFT OVER, 我不知道该说什么好,很鳖,很难受.

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• 版主请留一会儿好吗? -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:32:37

• 真是笨啊，你不会说吗: THANKS, YOU GO AHEAD. -aplan- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:43:35

• 没看出起因, 你总是吃剩菜? -greta- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:42:17

• No, 没有起因, 有一天她就这么说了, 然后就老是这么说了. -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:46:24

• 下次她再说你就看着她的眼睛直接问她为什么.如果她真的是恶意, 被你1问会有点收敛的. -greta- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:51:59

• 气死偶了。 -牡丹花下- ♀ (106 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:43:02

• 回复：我很笨, 我很无能, 所以我越来越懦弱. 该怎么办? -xihuanzhe- ♀ (270 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:45:46

• 大家吃中餐, SHARE FOOD. 我没有吃LEFTOVER.我也不想避开那样更受欺负. -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:55:38

• You call file sexual harassment complaint against her! -PIPIO- ♀ (118 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:50:28

• No. Please enlighten me what is a sexual discrimination :-) -IndependentMind- ♂ (190 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:36:16

• Sorry, I meant sexual harassment. -IndependentMind- ♂ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:40:32

• 你每次都吃剩下的，还是你吃饭比别人慢一点？ -Graffiti- ♀ (50 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:47:13

• 两样都不是. 我们一周吃1-2次, 她大概一共说了3次了. -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:52:40

• 告诉她，我知道你就是LEFT OVER吃多了才这么肥的，还这么不懂礼貌！ -逍遥白鹤- ♀ (191 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:48:51

• directly tell her you are not comfortable when she -maysuh- ♀ (91 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:38:48

• No, she needs to be politically correct (that is -IndependentMind- ♂ (163 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:31:21

• 告诉她吃LEFTOVER可以保持体形，对她有好处呀。: )) -乖乖小猪- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:49:19

• Just tell her:thank you, but I don't think I need that much. -Apricotseed- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:49:29

• 一边说一边笑眯眯的悠闲的看着她。 -Apricotseed- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:50:45

• 对，就说：thank you, but I don't think I need that much. ，再加一句：I thin -babyflower- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 13:19:41

• 回复：我很笨, 我很无能, 所以我越来越懦弱. 该怎么办? -pearbear- ♀ (101 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:53:03

• fight back, don't let her 得寸进尺 -mybm- ♀ (74 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:53:11

• Next time, just say "I do not want it. If you like please help y -tyche- ♂ (128 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:54:29

• yeah, I think this is the right thing to say -tuzhirong- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 13:37:19

• Just tell her:I am offended by what you said -everafter- ♀ (379 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:57:44

• 不要怕她, 自信点, 你也可以和他们开玩笑啊, 你越不敢说话, -羊毛背心- ♀ (46 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 09:59:33

• 别担心，有教养的人都会看穿她的。路不平，会有人铲的。 -爱上网- ♀ (243 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:02:47

• 路不平，会有人铲的? You need to 铲 yourself. -smileJJ- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:05:26

• 要是在我们公司就会有老美出来帮她铲了。 -everafter- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:09:55

• Tell her in public: I am offended by what you said. If you -smileJJ- ♀ (48 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:04:40

• I think the second part she does not need to say but to do. -everafter- ♀ (48 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:11:16

• 你应该珍视着他的眼睛说：“I don't think that's funny, <whatever her f***ing n -明月无霜- ♀ (191 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:05:23

• 上面的title没写完 <whatever her f***ing name> -明月无霜- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:06:47

• agree! 这和中国人不中国人没关系，我也常带中饭 -萧萧06- ♀ (174 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:27:35

• That would be mine way of handling this case as well. -IndependentMind- ♂ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 13:22:40

• 要改性格。 -有生于无- ♀ (181 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:09:14

• 本来自信不高, 被她欺负更没有自信心了. -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (13 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:13:41

• tell her supervisor. -everafter- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:15:21

• 有时候他会和她一起笑. -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:17:11

• 没关系，还是可以和他说，它就算心里不以为然，也必须得帮你解决 -明月无霜- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:23:28

• 回复：没关系，还是可以和他说，它就算心里不以为然，也必须得帮你解决 -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (17 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:26:29

• Agree -everafter- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:41:53

• It's ok, you still need to talk to him or email to him -everafter- ♀ (162 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:24:37

• 回复：It's ok, you still need to talk to him or email to him -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (28 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:28:53

• If you feel shy to talk to him directly, just email him. everybo -everafter- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:41:20

• 很理解你。 -有生于无- ♀ (169 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:00:39

• 这要是我以前的一个哥们，肯定得说“What's your f**king problem, you want to take t -明月无霜- ♀ (70 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:22:18

• 我能感受到你的苦恼，柿子软都是被人捏的，按明月无霜说的去做吧。 -willywonka- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:23:59

• 气死我了，肯定不止这一件吧。以后你直说, i dont appreciate your comments。 -暖暖同学- ♀ (104 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:24:38

• 谢谢大家的热心帮忙. 让我真的很感动. 特别是钢材有个朋友说的 -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (401 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 10:52:46

• 用实例鼓励你一下， 我认识一个人， -currypopcorn- ♂ (438 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:11:07

• 你不用觉得自己太笨，实在是这样的asshole 在工作中也不多见 -明月无霜- ♀ (230 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:27:59

• 我觉得你要改变的不是怎么去骂回去,而是平日就要学会 -孤单小企鹅- ♀ (292 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:00:33

• 我就是不会见招拆招, 遇到不友好言语首先觉得不是故意的, -我很笨笨笨- ♀ (78 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:06:14

• 没关系，有事再来好了。^_^ 毕竟我们看了都挺生气的。大家也都很热心帮你的 -跳舞的尘埃- ♀ (116 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:11:16

• 善良和懦弱是两回事.她对你的看法不是一天两天 -孤单小企鹅- ♀ (270 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:20:56

• 说的好！ -萧萧06- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:25:51

• Don't say 笨 yourself. Don't be afraid! -4peace- ♀ (509 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:05:53

• Just tell her with a relaxing smile: -lovelovemybaby- ♀ (369 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:12:43

• 慢慢来, 我以前也这样, 生完孩子后我发现没任何事比生孩子更可怕, 胆大了就变得 -sm999- ♀ (41 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:24:43

• 我觉得老外才吃剩菜吧...在餐馆吃剩的打包不是从老外那学来的么 -阿巧- ♀ (328 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:24:50

• what a smart girl! -wolfy- ♀ (28 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:52:00

• 有些美国人很贱的，你不能软着和她来 -四白- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:43:30

• 回复：有些美国人很贱的，你不能软着和她来 -Sylviadu- ♀ (6 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:02:01

• 同意! 我以前也老是忍气吞声. -琦遇记- ♀ (350 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:03:03

• 回复：我很笨, 我很无能, 所以我越来越懦弱. 该怎么办? -生命是平的- ♀ (106 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:44:07

• Here is my advice... -IndependentMind- ♂ (795 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:47:57

• And I don't believe it is a right thing to do -IndependentMind- ♂ (1133 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 13:14:50

• 没有这样的经验，不过换作我，我会把饭直接掀到她脸上，再说句“今儿就赏给你了！” -06小可- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:53:43

• 如果这样作本来有理也没理了，还有可能被解雇或惹上官司 -小小迷糊虫- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 19:54:02

• 直接把饭掀她脸上，说“今儿赏你了！” -06小可- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 11:57:03

• Ding -Linainus- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:23:02

• 再加上一句“胖母猪” ！ -卡布琪诺- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 13:50:25

• smile and tell her... -why-why- ♀ (223 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:34:04

• vote for"clean up ur filthy&discriminative mouth b4 uses it agai -soldanella- ♀ (20 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 16:52:53

• 增强实力，加强自信，与人为善 -memphis- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:36:23

• 回复：我很笨, 我很无能, 所以我越来越懦弱. 该怎么办? -ziyanbabe- ♀ (95 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:46:37

• 再加一句"so you can probably get skinner", you fat ASS!!! -说实在的- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 13:51:22

• Thank you. You can have the leftovers. I don't need them to keep -yunchu- ♀ (76 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 12:50:18

• 建议看看Friends，Sex&City这类的肥皂剧，既练口语又学交往的技巧。 -想要五月小凤凰- ♀ (790 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 13:26:43

• 如果是我，就说“你那么胖，一定很能吃，我剩的这些都给你吧，free” -卡布琪诺- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 13:48:31

• If I were you, I would have said: -COOL-DUDE- ♀ (56 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 14:42:05

• Just say "I believe you need it much more than I do" -小小迷糊虫- ♀ (30 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 18:29:56

• 我靠，难道没听过，一切美帝都是纸老虎吗？要是我 -兰色跑车- ♀ (104 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 18:38:05

• 我告诉你，对老外，就不能像对中国人那么客气含蓄 -兰色跑车- ♀ (761 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 18:48:42

• 下次答她：”吃剩饭所以才苗条呀，看看你我之间就知道了。” -长袖_善舞- ♂ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 20:49:19

• 下次再那么说你，就一字一顿的瞪着她的眼睛告诉她： -碧潭茉莉- ♀ (384 bytes) () 08/22/2008 postreply 22:32:16

• 我建议你这么做 -jiefang- ♂ (2049 bytes) () 08/23/2008 postreply 11:25:52

• 他若还想争论， -jiefang- ♂ (247 bytes) () 08/23/2008 postreply 11:32:08

• 要明白，即使Joking，也被认为是不professional，是prohibited。 -jiefang- ♂ (0 bytes) () 08/23/2008 postreply 12:00:35

• I would seriously look at her and say, what's that suppose to me -IC- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/23/2008 postreply 19:12:35

• to mean -IC- ♀ (71 bytes) () 08/23/2008 postreply 19:14:54