Engagement ring

来源: lhg 于 2008-06-09 00:41:30 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (1325 bytes)

A question for jms here: should I lend money to my fiancee to buy the engagement ring for me? We already plan to get married in Aug, now we are doing ring shopping. He wants his uncle to make a ring for me since his uncle is a very famous jewlry designer and maker and made a lot of jewelries for celebrites, he just need pay the materials fee, and his uncle could get him very good deal in the diamond and materials .The problem is that he has to pay cash. But he doesn't have cash. He was planning to borrow loan to buy the ring. I mentioned that I could lend some money to him for the ring.He didn't ask to borrow money from me at all. The point is that after consideration, I feel a little uncomfortable because anyhow, it is almost equals to that spend my money to buy engagement ring for myself. What I should do in this case? Keep silence to let him get loan, or lend money to him for the ring? We are going to have a wedding, too. It makes me feel a little uncomfortable to spend out my money for all these things. Actually he earns much more money than me just doesn't have any savings. We do love each other and get along well with very much. We have been dated for 7 months. Please give me any suggestion. How to deal with this thing is better? I did feel that he wants to buy a nice ring I like. Thanks a lot!

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• 你要是觉得借钱给他买戒指给你,你心理不舒服,就不借贝,他又没主动 -HSBC2008- ♀ 给 HSBC2008 发送悄悄话 (11 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 09:34:04

• how did he propose without a ring? -阿巧- ♀ 给 阿巧 发送悄悄话 阿巧 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 10:03:30

• 同问!! -暖暖同学- ♀ 给 暖暖同学 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 10:17:23

• fiancee to be, maybe --:-)-- ♀ 给 -:-)- 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 10:49:52

• 怎么觉得是你自己挖了坑现在又犹豫要不要跳 --:-)-- ♀ 给 -:-)- 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 10:57:08

• Why marry someone so financially insecure? -Graffiti- ♀ 给 Graffiti 发送悄悄话 Graffiti 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 11:19:25

• 在一起7个月就结婚了？他没有钱还谈什么结婚，戒指婚礼都要自己出钱。。 -小小巧克力豆- ♀ 给 小小巧克力豆 发送悄悄话 小小巧克力豆 的博客首页 (37 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 11:54:58

• BIG NO.他有多少钱，就买多少钱的戒指，包括LOAN -紫色公主- ♀ 给 紫色公主 发送悄悄话 (128 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 13:39:21

• 紫色应该开个情感专栏，你对两性关系的认知很高啊 -nuno- ♀ 给 nuno 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 17:10:52

• 让他去忙活吧 婚后还有很多要共同分担的financial responsibilities,这个 -sjsh- ♀ 给 sjsh 发送悄悄话 (190 bytes) () 06/09/2008 postreply 18:40:14

• I might be a little different from most JMS here. I brought my -aberfoyle04- ♀ 给 aberfoyle04 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 06/10/2008 postreply 13:32:26

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