写给令一半的话，很无奈，也很伤感

quarrelled again just because I was playing after work, after I cleaned dishes and done homework with kids. Below is the word I want to say to her, but I konw she won't listen. Post here to see if I need to improve in my marriage life.

"you don't care what I did for the family, so you care to criticize my play. what is the point, why live with me? Why not go find a place that you enjoy, instead of quarrelling with me all the time??

Recall all quarrels in our life together, how many times is due to my criticizing on you? how many is due to your criticizing? I don't hope any change from you. But if we keep silent, then our marrige may last longer, which is better for kids, even though none of us feel good. I can't live a life you assign to me, not only because I am myself, but also, I am sure some of your suggestion doesn't make sense at all -- I don't want to quarrel with you on this, no point to do that, it is just different understanding of the world. The only thing I want to say is, if you want to be happy, work your way out, why force others to sacrifice in making it possible for you? Friends stay together because they mutually make each other happy, marriage is so even more."

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• 别的先不说，用英文就不对，除非她不懂中文。 -忍到底- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 13:36:32

• calm down -chamberlain- ♂ (79 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 13:38:01

• 你应该私下里跟她谈谈，在这说也不解决问题。 -xix- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 13:42:55

• 惩罚一下，让她知道不尊重老公的后果。 -塞上孤星- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 15:17:34

• How? -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 17:51:44

• 觉得你说的句句在理。解决的方法：婚外恋。 -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 15:29:00

• 回复：写给令一半的话，很无奈，也很伤感 -好看？- ♀ (124 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 15:56:34

• typo; her, not him -好看？- ♀ (37 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 16:00:55

• 光说是没有用的。 -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 17:47:25

• 斩钉截铁地跟她说: 睡前一小时,雷打不动,我的自由时间. -铁塔哥- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 16:57:57

• 怎么一进城堡，就只剩下一小时的自由了呢？自由都没有了，还谈什么温暖？ -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 17:50:43

• 得到这一小时,就是质变.将来量变就好办了,比如开机关机不算时间等等. -铁塔哥- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 18:02:55

• 这量变，也可能变得只剩开机和关机时间？ -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 18:17:33

• here is the problem -好看？- ♀ (280 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 18:48:54

• If his wife spends time on housework and kids, or they spend tim -傻大个　- ♂ (349 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 19:51:20

• 有些笨女人是越惯越坏。 -傻大个　- ♂ (54 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 19:54:37

• 我可不主张男人哄女人 -好看？- ♀ (241 bytes) () 09/26/2009 postreply 06:15:40

• 你怎么知道他LP没做家务？7 -好看？- ♀ (60 bytes) () 09/26/2009 postreply 06:18:59

• 用语言无休无止地攻击对方。这种家庭冷暴力是不能姑息的。 -longhand- ♂ (0 bytes) () 09/25/2009 postreply 21:22:35