Please don't throw bricks on me

I cannot type in Chinese. Have been here for quite long time. Love here very much. Recently, there is a thing bother me a lot. I've known a coworker for a few years. He is always very nice to me. I know that his appearance is very attractive to a lots of girls. He seems to love his beautiful wife (I met his wife once) and his family very much. We hang out together a lot when we were coworker. Then both of us left the company and didn't contact each other for 2-3 years. A few months ago, I called him to ask him to be my reference because I need to change a job. He was very excited to hear my voice. Then he asked me to have lunch with him. We had a very good lunch together and talked for hours. Since I start to my new job, he asks me to have lunch with him every other week. Today, he asks me if he can take out order and have a lunch with me in a park. I told him I could not go very far. He said he can find a park near my company. I said Ok. But I didn't feel right after that, I have a very good hu*****and, but I really like this guy too. I like to have a lunch with him once a while, I like his company, but don't want to have further relation with him. He is not a chinese, is it proper to have a lunch with him in park? What should I do? I cannot sleep now, please give me some advice I need, not bricks

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• 为什么你会觉得和他在公园吃午餐就会不合适，在餐厅里就行？ -Phantasy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:21:23

• 回复：为什么你会觉得和他在公园吃午餐就会不合适，在餐厅里就行？ -skirt2008- ♀ (159 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:26:06

• 我和朋友会出去野餐呀！这没什么的。 -Phantasy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:27:41

• thanks -skirt2008- ♀ (52 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:30:13

• 朋友也可以在公园吃午餐啊～～～ -胡桃架子-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:28:00

• if you didn't feel right, then don't do it... -彩虹坊- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:21:57

• 我会和先生商量.免得日后经过别人传回去. -jxw16- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:22:25

• good idea! 既然你觉得和他没什么，让先生知道就不会有罪恶感了 -Phantasy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:26:21

• 咔咔，问题是她ＬＧ大概还８知道他们隔周就吃饭涅：） -胡桃架子-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:30:22

• 所以要是坦白了楼主就能安心了嘛！ -Phantasy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:32:55

• 隔周就吃一次饭，她安心了，她LG该8安心了：） -胡桃架子-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:34:23

• 如果她老公说NO，那就别去了八~~~~ -Phantasy- ♀ (40 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:40:02

• 晕倒~~ -sjmj- ♂ (22 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:45:47

• 他一定会说 -Phantasy- ♀ (33 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:49:43

• 嗯，他对你也会有信心的， -sjmj- ♂ (38 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:54:45

• 你信不信男女能成为好朋友？我的意思是很纯的好朋友？ -Phantasy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:56:41

• 8信：） -胡桃架子-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:58:22

• 俺以前也8信，不过来了中坛慢慢change mind了 -Phantasy- ♀ (47 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:03:00

• 中坛让你change mind了？ -sjmj- ♂ (54 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:05:24

• 也没准。。。不还有网恋么：） -胡桃架子-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:06:56

• hahahaha，小红花一朵！ -Phantasy- ♀ (15 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:08:54

• 当然， -sjmj- ♂ (152 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:01:44

• 老实说，俺没有答案，也没有经验，这一辈子大概也不会有了anyway -Phantasy- ♀ (27 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:06:49

• haha， 俺也是瞎操心：） -sjmj- ♂ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:08:43

• 这摊子来问这个问题的多了。。。 -胡桃架子-- ♀ (70 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:08:49

• 瞧瞧俺这破记性，都忘了有这回事儿了:-) -Phantasy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:10:33

• 呵呵，你晕倒了可没人扶得住耶~~ -胡桃架子-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:50:11

• 额以为有架子撑着呢？：） -sjmj- ♂ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:52:01

• 咣当~~~架子倒了 -胡桃架子-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:59:32

• 感觉每两周吃一次太频繁了些，如果你们有共同的旧同事， -spring_breeze- ♀ (26 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:27:41

• 回复：感觉每两周吃一次太频繁了些，如果你们有共同的旧同事， -skirt2008- ♀ (29 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:31:18

• 这个不用问他吧， -spring_breeze- ♀ (83 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:41:58

• 主要是你自己的心态最重要。不舒服，9别去了。 -jellybean3- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:33:25

• 很明显，这个每两周吃一次的要求是超出一般朋友的 -sjmj- ♂ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:34:51

• 在哪儿吃无所谓，主要是这个是定期的 -sjmj- ♂ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:35:57

• 嗯哪呗～ -豁牙老- ♀ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:48:44

• Thanks for all kind replies -skirt2008- ♀ (28 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:40:22

• agree with 彩虹坊 & jellybean3 -云是天上的花- ♀ (100 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:41:30

• 我想这其实是你自己的潜意识里的警戒线在发出警报~ -徘徊在似苦又甜之间- ♀ (43 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 20:49:52

• Never underestimate the curiosity of a married man.:-) -RPV- ♂ (0 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:17:20

• 俺嚼着再下去，也许就会和做朋友的初衷有些不一样了~~ -万水千山也有情- ♀ (36 bytes) () 11/03/2008 postreply 21:42:14

• 无论这份友谊长久与否,是时候表明你的态度了~~~~~ -甜酒甜- ♀ (243 bytes) () 11/04/2008 postreply 05:14:14

• btw~~~ -甜酒甜- ♀ (127 bytes) () 11/04/2008 postreply 05:26:10

• Lunch in the park 和 in restaurant 没区别吧 ？ -晓梦- ♀ (116 bytes) () 11/04/2008 postreply 06:55:56