社交语言技巧

语言技巧，友情为重

 

1. Listen &  be understanding

 

Don't just say "I disagree", show them that you understand them before you explain your opinion.

Say ;

Yes, but...

I see what you mean, but...

I agree up to a point, but

 

倾听并理解

 

 不要只是说“我不同意”，告诉他们你解释他们。

 可这样说：

 对，但是...

 明白。但......

 我同意一点，但：

 

 

2. Avoid negative words - instead use positive words in a negative form

 

Don't say: I think that's a bad idea.

Say: I don't think that's such a good idea.

 

避免否定词- 而是使用否定形式的正面词

 

 不要说：我认为这是一个坏主意。

 说：我认为这不是一个好主意。

 

3. Say the magic word: Sorry

This word can be used in many ways: to interrupt, to apologise, to show you don't understand, to disagree. It diffuses tension and it allows you to start a statement more comfortably. 

 

Sorry, but I don't really agree

 

【对不起】这个词可以用在很多方面：中断，道歉，表明你不理解，不同意。让您可以更舒适地开始陈述。

 

 对不起，但我真的不同意

 

4. Use little words to soften your statements

Break down negative sentences with some softeners.  

 

Don't say: I didn't catch that

Say: Sorry, I didn't quite catch that

 

用一些小词来软化你的陈述

 用一些柔软字来淡化否定句。

 

 不要说：我不懂你说那个

 说：对不起，我没听清楚

 

 

5. Avoid statements with the word 'you'

This is aggressive and too direct. But  put the focus on 'I' or 'we'.

Don't say: You don't understand me.

Say: Perhaps I'm not making myself clear.

 

避免使用“你”这个字

 

 这太直接了。尽量避免说'你'，而是把注意力放在'我'或'我们'上。

 

 不要说：你不理解我。

而是说：也许我没有说清楚。