儿子给出的难题, 恳请老猫及有经验的人士给些建议. 多谢!

来源: 养儿不易 于 2009-04-24 12:42:37 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (2635 bytes)

事情发生在春假之前，也就是三月份。我儿子在学校的乐队课间休息时，走到他左后方去和同学说话，另一个同学坐在他背后，手里拿着小提琴的弓，弓的前端正好放在了我儿子的脚后，我儿子后退一步正好踩在弓尖上，把那位同学的弓尖踩断了。乐队上课是大课，当时很多人，大家都在讲话。我儿子当时不知道那位同学的弓在他脚后。事后儿子回家没有告诉我们，一周后老师给儿子一个单子，告诉我们儿子踩坏了同学的弓子，让我们与对方家长联系。我们马上给那位同学的家长写了单子，告诉他们我们刚刚知道这件事，并附上我们的联系电话及电子信箱，希望他们与我们联系，商量 解决办法。

昨天，也就是一个月后，那位同学的家长送来一封信， 并附了一张replacement appraisal。上面写道：“To replace bow/copy of violin/France Pernambucco Silver mounted/ value $500”。

信的内容如下：

Good Day Mr.Xxxx,

I am writing to you on the unfortunate situation of having the bow that Xxxx(我儿子) stepped on replaced. I appreciate you sending your contact information to me earlier. I had obtained an appraisal from a luthier (violin maker” for the replacement cost of the bow shortly after the incident. I chose not to forward the information as it was just before Spring Break and felt that it should not disrupt your family’s vacation time.

The luthier advised that the bow in un-repairable due to the location of the break. Had it been closer to the frog of the bow it may have been repairable but the tip is so slim and takes so much stress and added weight from any repair would greatly affect the playability of the bow.

The appraisal on the bow is $500. This bow has been in my family for approximately 32 years. You may ask why Xxxx(他儿子) had such a valuable bow is because his graphite bow that was valued at over $200 was taken from his violin case earlier that month and as an interim he was required to lock his case and was given this bow until his bow would be replaced. Needless to say the month was a very expensive month for us, as far as, instrument costs.

The bow was one of my 2 personal bows and it is my preferred so I felt it would be more playable for Alan. The only other bow I had was valued over $800 (back in 2000), is a much heavier bow than Xxxx (他儿子) would use, and was not an option.

I trust that you appreciate our loss and we know that the incident was an unfortunate one. I thank you in advance for your prompt response.


Sincerely,

Xxxx



我的问题是：

1．我儿子在这件事上应当应该负多少责任？
2．我们应当如何解决这件事？
3．我们是否应该问他们要那个弓也去做一个appraisal？
4．如果双方谈不拢要上法庭，情况会怎样？我们应当做些什么准备？

谢谢各位的建议和帮助!

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• 你们没有保险吗? -老恐龙- ♀ 给 老恐龙 发送悄悄话 老恐龙 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 12:47:49

• 什么保险? -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 12:48:51

• 我在德国,基本人人都买一种第三者意外险.就是应付这种事件的. -老恐龙- ♀ 给 老恐龙 发送悄悄话 老恐龙 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 04/26/2009 postreply 01:42:46

• 回复：儿子给出的难题, 恳请老猫及有经验的人士给些建议. 多谢! -單身老貓- ♂ 给 單身老貓 发送悄悄话 單身老貓 的博客首页 (14 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 13:06:22

• 终于“见“到老猫了，对您肯定不是了，我还真没经验。 -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (48 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 13:11:08

• You are lucky. Some violin may cost 100K+ -jin_yin_hua- ♀ 给 jin_yin_hua 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 13:49:01

• 这么贵的琴家长就给孩子拿去学校上课用吗? 看来我们真该多见见事面了. -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:12:52

• I think she is unlucky. cost too much. -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (61 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 19:26:19

• sounds like T"he $67 Million Pants" case to me. -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (95 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 20:12:09

• 回复：终于“见“到老猫了，对您肯定不是了，我还真没经验。 -單身老貓- ♂ 给 單身老貓 发送悄悄话 單身老貓 的博客首页 (861 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:15:03

• 加一句,這個錢應該由您的孩子來出,可以讓他從零花錢中分期扣除 -單身老貓- ♂ 给 單身老貓 发送悄悄话 單身老貓 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:17:48

• 多谢老猫花这么多时间, 给出这么具体中肯的建议. 不只是 -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (170 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:25:58

• 哈哈, 我也是这么跟他讲的, 儿了现十三岁了, 该是学习承担责任的时候了. -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:28:13

• 500真得不多~~我朋友上高中用的小提琴估价就已经25万了，家里传下来的 -小小巧克力豆- ♀ 给 小小巧克力豆 发送悄悄话 小小巧克力豆 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 17:33:49

• 25万的提琴拿去上课练习？我是少见多怪了！ -dajia007- ♂ 给 dajia007 发送悄悄话 (72 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 20:11:44

• that must be full size. -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 20:13:38

• 不是玩琴的，不了解，但是她当时是first chair，她妈妈家传的宝贝 -小小巧克力豆- ♀ 给 小小巧克力豆 发送悄悄话 小小巧克力豆 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 10:20:56

• 回复：儿子给出的难题, 恳请老猫及有经验的人士给些建议. 多谢! -peewee- ♀ 给 peewee 发送悄悄话 (177 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 13:44:07

• 事前儿子不知道弓子放在他身后, 他后退一步不幸中标了~~ -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (28 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 14:11:13

• 从教育孩子的角度讲，老猫的建议是对的。 -peewee- ♀ 给 peewee 发送悄悄话 (262 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 17:34:42

• 谢谢peewee的理解! 你能从我们的角度来分析问题, -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (129 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 20:38:08

• if two cars hit each other on a private land, -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (53 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 21:14:38

• 谢谢你的建议! -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 21:31:49

• bid this one from ebay, US $0.99 now -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (325 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 02:40:26

• this guy have 10 of bows -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (267 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 02:47:42

• neo0987, 非常感谢你的热心！ -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (176 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 11:28:25

• If you hit a parked car, even unintentionally, you are liable -illogical- ♂ 给 illogical 发送悄悄话 (220 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 22:03:48

• 要是车趴在高速公路中央，还真不好说是谁的责任。 -如尘- ♀ 给 如尘 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 22:16:19

• 那毫争议地是你的责任! -illogical- ♂ 给 illogical 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 22:36:57

• lol -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 02:40:56

• 孩子 will never get hired by an insurance company or lawyer firm : -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 02:49:22

• 跟对方商量一下能不能50/50？那男孩没把弓放在安全的地方也有责任吧？ -如尘- ♀ 给 如尘 发送悄悄话 (88 bytes) () 04/24/2009 postreply 22:14:33

• 回复：跟对方商量一下能不能50/50？那男孩没把弓放在安全的地方也有责任吧？ -养儿不易- ♀ 给 养儿不易 发送悄悄话 (58 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 11:17:04

• 应该2个孩子一人一半从零花钱扣除. 都是教训. -老恐龙- ♀ 给 老恐龙 发送悄悄话 老恐龙 的博客首页 (70 bytes) () 04/26/2009 postreply 04:45:46

• this is reasonable. -hz82000- ♀ 给 hz82000 发送悄悄话 hz82000 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 04/26/2009 postreply 18:35:25

• 琴如果是一套买来的，BOW可能没那么贵，单算单配就很贵。 -chaoshou- ♀ 给 chaoshou 发送悄悄话 chaoshou 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 07:56:22

• at least 20 years old 琴. based on IRS calcaulation -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (64 bytes) () 04/25/2009 postreply 08:07:48

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