I am not sure what you told us is the true story or not. I believe that with help of your lawyer any man could get a devoice deal like that. However, you punished your ex-wife too much since at least she is still your kid's mom. When you married her, you knew that she just had a skin deep beauty. One thing that I want to reminder you is that man also could be as bad as your ex-wife, might be more worse. It is unfair to hate only on women since in most of devoice cases, wife is the one to be hurt rather than the hu*****and.