choice

I am faced with choices:

1. a teaching Bschool in Californa, $100K+

2. a price b school in Beijing, $250K

personal situatation: in US since 98, green card last August

with choice 1, careerwise, it would be hard to advance. I have been on faculty in a midwest research U for 6 years and know myself that I wouldn't like teaching a heavey load. Location is superb.

With choice 2, I have to make big adjustments both in life and in work. I like both work and life simple. So US seems suits me well. Careerwise, 2 is a better choice. Most colleagues are professors returning from US. I guess work politics wouldn't be as bad?  living cost is high. i would have to purchase apts if staying for good. It would be hard to keep green card.

While my career goes fairly well, my personal life stays stagnant. Although I consider myself good-looking and attractive, I am still single at age 41. perhaps,this is because I focus too much on career, living in the midwest all these years , or just in my fate. I heard california is more mixed and people are more easy going. Perhaps it would be good as far as my personal life is concerned? How about Beijing in this aspect of my life?

By the way, choice 2 also has an office in NY. the school is planning to offer EMBA program in the future. Could i use this so I can apply for reentry permit multiple times? 

Any suggestions and comments are welcome. Thank you in advance.

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STAY! -Icat- 给 Icat 发送悄悄话 Icat 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:48:02

GO! -用户名被占用了- 给 用户名被占用了 发送悄悄话 用户名被占用了 的博客首页 (159 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:51:02

“age 41” ♀ -- 给 ┴ 发送悄悄话 ┴ 的博客首页 (25 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:51:40

CO:。。。“age 41” GOOD LOOKING , ATTRACTIVE , ♀... -Icat- 给 Icat 发送悄悄话 Icat 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:53:29

来美时27岁的 GOOD LOOKING , ATTRACTIVE ♀“age 41”还没有♂,同情一下 -- 给 ┴ 发送悄悄话 ┴ 的博客首页 (21 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:59:59

i heard california has the highest men to women ratio in the US. -赵飞燕- 给 赵飞燕 发送悄悄话 赵飞燕 的博客首页 (49 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:52:25

我听说是因为硅工太多。;p -赵飞燕- 给 赵飞燕 发送悄悄话 赵飞燕 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 09:56:49

单身还犹豫啥,归吧 -850580- 给 850580 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:00:23

还得看看是几年的合同啊? -有些话不得不说- 给 有些话不得不说 发送悄悄话 有些话不得不说 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:02:04

回复:choice -北国之梦- 给 北国之梦 发送悄悄话 北国之梦 的博客首页 (194 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:01:08

选1,中国人惯于给你一个高薪,然后把你的东西窃走后,第二年炒了你。合同都不算数的 -有些话不得不说- 给 有些话不得不说 发送悄悄话 有些话不得不说 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:03:35

可能。想看看实例 -halfdummy- 给 halfdummy 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 11:41:44

girl, what are you talking about? 好男人到处是, -happychoir- 给 happychoir 发送悄悄话 (69 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:04:25

相信一个好男人,别相信中国人。哈哈。 -有些话不得不说- 给 有些话不得不说 发送悄悄话 有些话不得不说 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:05:16

来美时27岁的 GOOD LOOKING , ATTRACTIVE ♀也许在飞机场错过了好男人 -- 给 ┴ 发送悄悄话 ┴ 的博客首页 (164 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:11:33

不GOOD LOOKING ,照样可以ATTRACTIVE 有性格有自信。。。魅力无穷,但是 -Happychoir- 给 Happychoir 发送悄悄话 (31 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:20:08

Go home. More choice of men or a white guy here. Seems that -FHZM- 给 FHZM 发送悄悄话 FHZM 的博客首页 (92 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:06:13

真的不要回去,想一下当你身边的人都是25万人民币年薪的时候,你会招来多少嫉妒和中伤。 -有些话不得不说- 给 有些话不得不说 发送悄悄话 有些话不得不说 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:08:16

尤其是你还喜欢冒点英文之类的。哈哈。 -有些话不得不说- 给 有些话不得不说 发送悄悄话 有些话不得不说 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:08:41

在商学院里不一样的。周围都是这样的海龟或海鸥。 -FHZM- 给 FHZM 发送悄悄话 FHZM 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:10:49

Teaching B school offers 100K is a good deal. However, at this s -FHZM- 给 FHZM 发送悄悄话 FHZM 的博客首页 (60 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:09:30

你肯定不想找外国人结婚, 不然不会等到41还单身, 还是回吧, marriage 可能不是主要的. -清清凉- 给 清清凉 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:15:59

不过, 单身女人回去可能会面对来自家庭和周围环境更大的压力,要有思想准备 -清清凉- 给 清清凉 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:18:23

非诚上38的都找不到 -清清凉- 给 清清凉 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:23:46

国产影星还行, 象张子怡那样的土洋接合都够呛, 哈哈, 你知道的中国男人都那个什么, 嘿嘿嘿 -清清凉- 给 清清凉 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:38:07

但按钱来说, $25W在中国, 要比10W在加洲要好不老少, 过的肯定更滋润, 对吧, 哈哈哈 -清清凉- 给 清清凉 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:25:27

$25W在加州也要比10W在加洲要好不老少, 过的肯定更滋润 -有些话不得不说- 给 有些话不得不说 发送悄悄话 有些话不得不说 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:28:40

关健是在加洲拿不到$25W不是? -清清凉- 给 清清凉 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:39:06

Is the Bschool in Californa a tenured position? -aChineseBostonian- 给 aChineseBostonian 发送悄悄话 aChineseBostonian 的博客首页 (280 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:27:23

思想狭隘!或者说很歧视!哈 -用户名被占用了- 给 用户名被占用了 发送悄悄话 用户名被占用了 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:30:58

真是的叶, 人家没说是男是女, 我们怎么就认定是女的呢, 纷特! 哈哈哈 -清清凉- 给 清清凉 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:35:10

叫cherry的我认为不可能是男人,而且人家提到自己good-looking, attractive etc... -纳兰- 给 纳兰 发送悄悄话 纳兰 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:42:47

绝对是猜测, 没有任何hard evidence :) -清清凉- 给 清清凉 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:46:31

楼主字里行间就是这个意思,当然可能是找劳工 :-) -aChineseBostonian- 给 aChineseBostonian 发送悄悄话 aChineseBostonian 的博客首页 (145 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:38:07

“回北京唯一的原因是找老婆好找。” “祝你好运!” 哈哈! -- 给 ┴ 发送悄悄话 ┴ 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:32:39

看在钱的份上要么就归吧,不过要是个人终身大事,我觉得美国机会多 -纳兰- 给 纳兰 发送悄悄话 纳兰 的博客首页 (81 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:44:52

这个要看你个人更看重什么吧.只说说我的看法. -999朵玫瑰- 给 999朵玫瑰 发送悄悄话 999朵玫瑰 的博客首页 (218 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:45:43

你犯了跟我一样的错,她好像是找劳工 :-D -aChineseBostonian- 给 aChineseBostonian 发送悄悄话 aChineseBostonian 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:48:13

Oops,没搞清楚性别哦,那也回吧,国内帅哥很多哦.至于说目的是找老公,估计在美国现实点. -999朵玫瑰- 给 999朵玫瑰 发送悄悄话 999朵玫瑰 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 10:50:31

41岁了,还是来湾区吧 -I751- 给 I751 发送悄悄话 I751 的博客首页 (34 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 11:37:14

也难说哦.也许教EMBA一下撞上个亿万富豪呢,不是没可能啊. -999朵玫瑰- 给 999朵玫瑰 发送悄悄话 999朵玫瑰 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 11:43:32

太假了 -jzc- 给 jzc 发送悄悄话 (19 bytes) () 02/17/2012 postreply 11:25:32

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