回复：老人喜欢美国的倒是比较少

One may not need to like it--the USA, but the way it's been thought about and expressed here, ie."...根本就不喜欢这里...", no matter it's by the author or the great parents, it's quite negative.

...there's an our Chinese saying, which goes like, "...(Kan) Yi Ye Yi Zhi Qiu...", or, " Wei Chen(ZhiZhong) Jian Da Qian"...if we want to know somebody, we only need to look at especially the trivial little things they do, or say. And if we happen to know we're of "negative personality" which unfortunately could be 50% of the population, we try to avoid being in it... and the way things have been expressed here( by the author), well, I think it's a bit of negative--there is no thing, not a single thing on earth that is without some negative side... The right way to make a right decision,I think, is to think things through then make up your mind, stick to it, walk through all the obstacles with confidence, and with a smile if possible.--no matter going back to China or staying in the US , there is always some downside to it. Face it, and be strong. that's all. Nothing more we can do--can't make anything especially the undesirable ones go away. "Attitude is everything", yes, attitude is everything.

--the way we do things, the way we think about things and the way we see things, is exactly the way we live our everyday life...

The author is VERY lucky--he has two GOOD choices. How many of us have that? However, he makes it like he is an unfortunate person stuck in a dilemma --attitude is everything.

--sorry, i didn't mean to be rude, to any body especially the author who's seeking some advice...am i not giving some "right" advice here? Don't forget, " Liang Yao ku Kou".

You want to help somebody,you equip them with the right "weapon". Am I right?

Good luck!