He needs external proof

 

that he is good.

Everyone needs that.  The question is by how much.

That self-confidence you said he lacks should come from within himself.  Being a medical school student, how much external reassurance does he still need?

The key is being willing to be responsible for himself, and to have no need for external buttress.

If he didn't get the tutoring job, does it mean his lack of self-confidence is warranted?

Congratulations!

 

(His lack of self-confidence may stem from that he needs to prove to you, again and again, by providing evidence that he is good.  Take it as a price to pay for him becoming an MD.  There should always be a better way to do something.)

 

 

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• thx ，不自信是他的缺点，但从另一方面又让他更加努力，从他得到的回报来说，我认为He did great job!他是一个百分 -ProudOfMySon- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/26/2021 postreply 07:12:00

• External proof takes power away from him. -One1618- ♂ (96 bytes) () 05/26/2021 postreply 07:25:25

• 百分百自推的孩子，从来不用我的操心。我们操心的就是让他relaxing。 -ProudOfMySon- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/26/2021 postreply 07:14:00

• 我家的是心理上完全自推，总想着拿第一；但是行动上还是需要推一下的，因为超前学的有些多。她还是会觉得累 -两女宝妈- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/26/2021 postreply 08:17:54

• 很理解。我女儿也是，因为不自信一定会多做一些努力保证达标。所以多数情况下可能超标。这个习惯的坏处就是她会因 -香草仙子- ♀ (227 bytes) () 05/26/2021 postreply 09:22:19

• 不一定是这样。有的孩子对自己要求高，觉得自己达不到那个标准就会产生不自信 -数与形- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/26/2021 postreply 08:13:07