给大学新生爸妈

Saw the postings on connecting and communicating with your freshman children.

My son found excuses not talking to us when he was a freshman.  It is the time that they try to seek independence.  So just relax.  If they don't want to talk to you, let them go. 

Children often tell you that they are busy with study, etc because they know that their parents would like to hear that.  In reality, classes are not difficult.  

He told me that many ABC children complained that their parents are controlling freaks.  They don't feel like going home at Thanksgiving nor Christmas.  We are talking "good" IVY league students. 

Eventually children would figure things out, and things are settled. 

My son skypes me once a week now and we text/call in between if needed.  So when I call him, he would immediately pick up because he knows that I would not call unless there is something urgent or important.

So relax, and enjoy yourself with work or new hobbies.

 

 

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• 象我们小娃家长有一天孩子上学大人放假笑的合不拢嘴：）） -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/12/2015 postreply 10:32:19

• 哈哈，我们还盼着THANKSGIVING那。 -牛仔酷001- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/12/2015 postreply 10:34:51

• 赞您的分享。希望空巢家长都有好心态=）。 -几句闲话- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/12/2015 postreply 10:36:32

• Same here. waiting for kid coming back for Thanksgiving. fingers -FlowerSkirt- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/12/2015 postreply 10:38:34

• 我现在理解老人到过节时的心情了。节日是孩子们”应该回家“的理由，哈哈 -牛仔酷001- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/12/2015 postreply 10:41:03

• 握手！ -白兔妈- ♀ (384 bytes) () 10/12/2015 postreply 11:09:33

• 我家也一样。一周一电话或facetime. 没事不烦他们。 -toddmom- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/12/2015 postreply 11:29:49