my comments on some posts on "外国孩子抢功劳"

In this society, nobody will work by himself; everybody will
need to work together with others, including obtaining help from others, which
do not exclude his/her parents. If a co-worker (in this case the son) has a
problem, the mentor (parents in this case) should get invovled to help. That is
part of the team work, and part of the training for the child. 锻炼自己 does not
mean parents/friends/mentors/others cannot help.


In my opinion, few people are born with so called leadership;
practice/training/learning is part of acquiring the "leadership
ability". Simply blaming a child, who lost his/her credit, w/o leadership
is not fair to that that child. In any oranization/society/culture, taking
others' credit is not considered as good behavior. It might help that
individual to get personal interest; in a long run, this kind of behavior will
hurt everybody in that society. That is exactly one big reason, in my opion, y
indian people as an individual are doing very good in a western country, but
their own country is not doing good. If this culture becomes dominant in the
US, US will be dragged down. Few smart people would want to work hard any more.

of course on this forum, there are always some people believe he has the natural leadership; likely believe his son/daughter will have it too. Congratulations to him, he does not heed to train his child.


I do not suggest the parents should do everything for their son to take back
his credit, but should definitely provide help to teach him how to fight. Even
if the son is now 40 year old, the parents can still help, let alone the child
is only a high school student.

所有跟帖： 

• 写的很好，我觉得 it's time to say goobye to the Indian boy! -liveinca- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 04:44:55

• 一共3个人，goodbye一个就不能当队长了。 -夏天~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 05:21:54

• 好过人家抢你饭碗吧 -liveinca- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 06:15:18

• 他还是队长吧，还是项目第一领导人吧？ 报到中的抢功只要下一篇注意写我们就好了。 -夏天~- ♀ (114 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 07:19:44

• +1 要看全局。学习老毛，能屈能伸 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 07:26:21

• 赶走容易， 但生活中，不是总能自己选择别人的离开。 留下来， 孩子 更有动力学习真正的leadership skills & s -心镜- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 07:11:06

• 赞成 -鸽哨- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 08:01:17

• 多谢你客观的建议。 -心镜- ♀ (966 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 06:58:02

• 家长最好的帮助就是从小鼓励孩子敢跟家长“做对”，LOL，过于介入绝对是帮倒忙：） --百科-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/09/2014 postreply 08:44:43