About Rodger and His Mom ---- My Two Cents

I haven't finished reading the whole manifesto yet but to me the guy had a good relationship with his mom.  She loved him unconditionally.  She did all she could to bring him up.  She was the one making all the playdates for him so he could have friends.  His step mom only asked his nanny to take him out.  She didn't love him as much as his own biological mom.  His own mom didn't even tell him that it was his father who had had an affair that led to their divorce, out of protection of his fatherly image in his son's eyes, I think.  But the son was diagnosed a high functioning autistic.  So he couldn't see that.  It must be devastating for his mom.

I guess if they had lived in a community with more Asians or had more friends with cross racial marriages, he might not have been pressured to color his hair nlond, seek girls with blond hair,  and try to be cool like other cool kids.  But he's autistic, it's like there was an invisible door that was locked.  Even though his parents especially his mom had tried so hard to knock on it and tried to get through to him.  She could never penetrate it.  My heart goes out to her mom.  And to the moms of his roommates.  I can't even imagine the pain they all have to go through and live with for the rest of their life. 

Which mom would expect such a tragedy? You spend 18 years to raise your kids up and send them to one of the best colleges expecting them to be engieers, doctors, lawyers, ... with a successful career and a beautiful and happy wife and their own kids.  Suddenly your kids were gone and you can never talk to them or see them.  They just lost their lives to someone who was mentally ill, who also caused his own mother to suffer the unbearble pain of losing her son, whom she had given all her love and attention. 

It was such a tragedy!  I can't even think about all this any more!  So sad!
 

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• 看来悲剧的根源在白老爸。 -夏日怡心- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 02:37:59

• 根源在于外嫁。亚爹好于墨爹好于白爹好于黑爹 -用户名被占用了- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 04:10:00

• 基本认同。 -夏日怡心- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 05:59:05

• 看个人了，白人里顾家爱孩子的好爸爸好妈妈也多的是。 -篱笆08- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 06:02:28

• 赵承熙是100%亚裔，父母英文讲不好。然后大家说他们不够融入。。。。。话都容易说。 -左手- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 06:06:16

• 这一代和下一代的小中女会外嫁的比例应该是越来越大了吧 -violinpiano- ♂ (40 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 07:07:44

• 离婚的亚爹不管孩子的多的是 -Manymore- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 07:18:31

• Unconditional love 害S人啊，那孩子错误的认为别人都对不起他。一点程度上宠坏了，没有正确引导。 -betadine - ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 04:36:30

• It's debatable if he met criteria for autism. -Tianbupa- ♂ (72 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 06:21:07

• 虽说人的成长和家庭关系很大，而且这是子女坛，讨论家长的作用 -CirrusCloud- ♀ (162 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 06:47:05

• Agree. Parents can't be responsible for their kids wrongdoings. -Cielo- ♀ (266 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 07:08:16

• 确定吗？-- the son was diagnosed a high functioning autistic -木每- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/28/2014 postreply 09:41:39