(my father is holding apricots from a tree he planted)
The greatest i have done to my father is that
After a chicken-soup-for-heart class, I had a breakthrough with him and realized that for many years I had been living in my own story about my father, blaming him for causing the pain that my mother has endured, no matter how much he has loved me.
That morning, my father was sitting on the sofa, doing something I cannot remember now. I told myself to be strong and get over with my resentment to him, which has tortured me since I was little.
I walked toward him and stood in front of him, looking at him into his eyes, saying, "Dad, thank you for giving me my life."
Silence.
My father did not say anything back and I fled away. But I need to tell you – since then, my father‘s heart and mine have been getting softer. Many times a heart has been hardened by misunderstanding and lack of communication.
What's after that is i have to keep fighting against my verbal habits that i used to talk with my father and be more respectful to him.
Another realization is that
Months ago, my father had some symptoms similar to heart seizure and I drove him to emergency room. That night he was lying in bed with whole body plugged with all kind of equipments. I was sitting next to him. Aged and weak. Death can carry him away any moment when he falls into sleep.
All of a sudden, I had the urge to touch my father. For the first time in my life, I touched my father's hair and face.
In the beginning he was not used to this and shook his head slightly.
"Ease, dad”.
He closed his eye. I could see, from his slowly relaxed face, that he was able to feel me, enjoying a daughter's love!
The machine always buzzed when my dad's heart beat dropped to be under 45. My heart stopped beating whenever I heard that sound, seized by the pain of losing him.
Later, at 3:00am, a nurse suggested me to leave. I stood up and looked at him, as if this would be the last look, because I did not know what would be when I came back the next morning. My tears burst out - - - how much have I known him, this man I called My Father?!
The examination result shows my father healthy. But the question out of this experience has always been on mind - - - how much have I known him, this man I called My Father?!
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