Let me say say what I know

"他的房间扔得乱七八糟，以前俺一两周去收拾一回。" He is trying to establish his teritory.

At this age, the child is testing their parents to see how far could they expand. This is the time that parents need to pick your battle.

My experiences are:
1. don't fight over small thing things. Let your child find their own way.
2. When you say something, you better mean it. If you back off after saying something, you will be pushed again and again.
3. See #1.

For example, if my son wants to bake something, he may break a bowl or use too much oil. These are small things, let it go. But if he stops the project half way and leaves everything in every where, you must step in and say - clean it up first. You must make sure he does clean it up. If you start cleaning yourself and keep nagging him, you lose.

所有跟帖： 

• 结论，家里有TEEN就没好日子过了！ -水晶铃儿- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/03/2008 postreply 10:49:30

• 谢谢提醒：）） -水晶铃儿- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/03/2008 postreply 11:03:32