I agree 小孩不打不成材,趁小严一点好.

I agree 小孩不打不成材,趁小严一点好. But the point is WHY she is punished. As parents we must check ourselves first. If the kids do something wrong and got punished, they will learn a lesson so that they would not make the same mistake again. If they did not do anything wrong. Parent punished them just because the parent is stupid (sorry to say so, I can't find a good English word to express my opinion). What do you expect from the poor kids? One day they will learn how to rebel. Then the parent will be in big trouble. Being a parent with wisdom is very important, or 受苦的日子在后面呢. Now she is young, you can treat her according to your opinion, even though that is not fair for her. But for sure she can remember all those unfair treatment. One day when you can't force her to do anything, there will be a disaster for both of you. Sorry to say so.