I cant' say too much about him, he is not chinese, he has different cultures and life experiences, but you choose him by yourself. Those americans around me no boday has no extra lovers outside of their wives, just some are great cheaters, some of them are not, usually, they have several, most of them are their coworkers, they will enjoy evevrything during the time of traveling and meeting, etc. I saw several times, I never told their wives. so try to leave him if you can't bear him anymore, find someone you can really trust, maybe a great chinese man this time?