They grow up here, they enjoy their own culture; You grow up in China, then try to twist youself to "fit in" other culture. This is a dual standard. You compare two different thing.
While, if you want to forge your identity and be the so called "first generation immigration" here, you have to consider carefully, both financially and emotionally.
Furthermore, even for the 3rd or 4th generation here, Chineses-American always feel like not live in you home, but you are a foreigner live in your neighbor's home.