早上6：15起来就到厨房准备早餐，等我把鸡蛋香肠煎好，面条煮
要求孩子改变之前，大人必须先改变。
我已经在改掉我一生气就怒斥他们的习惯，我尽量轻言细语地表达我
昨天，哥哥放学有活动，打电话回家让接他，弟弟接的电话，因为没
回到今早的事情上来，当我明确表示不送他之后，他把早餐一丢就冲
我面无表情地说，如果你错过了校车就自己走去学校吧。从家走到学
他的行为都是我惯出来的，我总是提醒他要上某大学。他只要把那些
他会觉得上个好大学是为了我。而我也应该满足他所有要求。
孩子眼里父母对他唯一的要求就是好好学习上个好大学。不！上好大
我开始改变我对他的要求，我希望你健康成长，除了身体健康，心灵
最后他只好跟着弟弟去赶弟弟的校车，弟弟的校车7：30才到，从
我开车出去的时候，他们还在那里等，雨一直下着。我还是停下来送
但这不是妥协。我告诉他，我会取消他的一项活动，既然你连上课时
他很生气。
我不生气了。
我放学回家，一边吃午饭一边拿出日历看我们的圣诞假期。
哥哥已经不愿意和我们一起去度假了。我也不想强行拉他一起，最后弄得假期里谁都不开心，该度假的没玩好，不愿度假的人也没玩好。
不去算了，但我不想把他留在家里。于是，追加一个限制条款给他。圣诞节不能独自呆在家里，要去爸爸家。
好了，他迅速回信给我了。信的内容如下：
You never reflect what you do wrong and try to fix them but only try to tear other people apart. I wrote you an email about things Im going to fix and then you write me an email about things i wrote about previously and added a bunch of false accusations. Before assuming things, you should get it clear, One I did not take away 弟弟s coat because i was cold, I just needed it for the hood so I can smuggle myself on the 弟弟学校（此信的中文是我换上来的） bus. Not because I was cold. Second I only spend 5 - 10 minute every morning on my hair because im a teenager. I care about how I look when going out to public and so your telling me you didn't spend any time on your hair when you were 15. And no I did spend around 2-3 hours typing a paper and preparing for a test. Video games is a decent proportion of who I am and that just cant be changed. In school I'm not cool because I spend money on games instead of drugs or alcohol. I'm not cool because I don't want to go out to party all night and get wasted. People spend their money and time on much worse things that video games. I never put video games before school. I make sure it doesn't get in the way of my schoolwork. I always reflect on the things and plan on how im going to make myself better but I never see you doing it. We already agreed that I was going to stay home. Ill go to stop and shop the day before, get food and take care of my self at home, You guys can have fun at your vacation, and I'll be at our house nicely heated and supplied with food waiting for you guys to come back. I can take care of myself, Ive done it for 3 weeks alone at our house I can do it for 3 days. From now, I do promise to change my temper and I'll talk things calmly though only if you promise the same. And punishment is not a good way to solve an issue. It makes us both mad. an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMRrCYPxD0I
看完这信我突然觉得我已经不是对手了。。。。。。。。
要求孩子改变之前，大人必须先改变。
我已经在改掉我一生气就怒斥他们的习惯，我尽量轻言细语地表达我
昨天，哥哥放学有活动，打电话回家让接他，弟弟接的电话，因为没
回到今早的事情上来，当我明确表示不送他之后，他把早餐一丢就冲
我面无表情地说，如果你错过了校车就自己走去学校吧。从家走到学
他的行为都是我惯出来的，我总是提醒他要上某大学。他只要把那些
他会觉得上个好大学是为了我。而我也应该满足他所有要求。
孩子眼里父母对他唯一的要求就是好好学习上个好大学。不！上好大
我开始改变我对他的要求，我希望你健康成长，除了身体健康，心灵
最后他只好跟着弟弟去赶弟弟的校车，弟弟的校车7：30才到，从
我开车出去的时候，他们还在那里等，雨一直下着。我还是停下来送
但这不是妥协。我告诉他，我会取消他的一项活动，既然你连上课时
他很生气。
我不生气了。
我放学回家，一边吃午饭一边拿出日历看我们的圣诞假期。
哥哥已经不愿意和我们一起去度假了。我也不想强行拉他一起，最后弄得假期里谁都不开心，该度假的没玩好，不愿度假的人也没玩好。
不去算了，但我不想把他留在家里。于是，追加一个限制条款给他。圣诞节不能独自呆在家里，要去爸爸家。
好了，他迅速回信给我了。信的内容如下：
You never reflect what you do wrong and try to fix them but only try to tear other people apart. I wrote you an email about things Im going to fix and then you write me an email about things i wrote about previously and added a bunch of false accusations. Before assuming things, you should get it clear, One I did not take away 弟弟s coat because i was cold, I just needed it for the hood so I can smuggle myself on the 弟弟学校（此信的中文是我换上来的） bus. Not because I was cold. Second I only spend 5 - 10 minute every morning on my hair because im a teenager. I care about how I look when going out to public and so your telling me you didn't spend any time on your hair when you were 15. And no I did spend around 2-3 hours typing a paper and preparing for a test. Video games is a decent proportion of who I am and that just cant be changed. In school I'm not cool because I spend money on games instead of drugs or alcohol. I'm not cool because I don't want to go out to party all night and get wasted. People spend their money and time on much worse things that video games. I never put video games before school. I make sure it doesn't get in the way of my schoolwork. I always reflect on the things and plan on how im going to make myself better but I never see you doing it. We already agreed that I was going to stay home. Ill go to stop and shop the day before, get food and take care of my self at home, You guys can have fun at your vacation, and I'll be at our house nicely heated and supplied with food waiting for you guys to come back. I can take care of myself, Ive done it for 3 weeks alone at our house I can do it for 3 days. From now, I do promise to change my temper and I'll talk things calmly though only if you promise the same. And punishment is not a good way to solve an issue. It makes us both mad. an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMRrCYPxD0I
看完这信我突然觉得我已经不是对手了。。。。。。。。
