getting a divorce

I am getting a divorce after 10 years marriage. My wife said that she was not happy with me and she will not be happy with me. In other's eyes, we are model hu*****and and wife, having successful careers and a happy family, and they might not understand why we have a divorce.

Actually, happiness is relative and there is no absolute HAPPY condition in my opinion. When I was doing my further education as a student, I think I would be happy if I were in a car when riding a bike to school especially in raining days. But how many people having a car are happy? I always envoy people having a job no matter how much do they make at that time. Being poor under pressure, I am not sure who can be happy?

Now I have a very good career, but am I happy? I am not because of separation and problems accumulated over years we could not solve, but I should feel happy compared with those people losing their jobs in this recession on the other hand. All these years, happiness is like a luxury thing I have not thought too much. If I am not happy, she would not be happy either I guess.

Of course, people would not be happy without a successful career or good income. But on the other hand, people always wanting more would not be happy either at any time. Am I an unhappy person who will make people living with me unhappy? It is true that we do not have to solve the problems between us with a divorce, but HAPPY seems still far away for both of us.

I know I made lots of mistakes during our marriage, but I treated her and my family with all of my heart although I did not always show my love in the way what she want. But who did not make mistakes over years of marriage? I do not have any bad habits and I had never had a relationship with other women other than her all these years. I never thought I would have a divorce because I consider marriage as a life long contract under any situation. One day, all gone. I prefer to think in this way; we live in different worlds that we cannot across to each other's world. I am very sad and disappointed, but I wish her happy everyday which I promised but I could not give.

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• Don't feel too bad. Try to enjoy the change -人生边走边学- ♀ (131 bytes) () 08/05/2009 postreply 13:41:14

• 回复：getting a divorce -自由凡人- ♀ (404 bytes) () 08/05/2009 postreply 14:35:34

• appreciate ur comments. -zythx- ♂ (462 bytes) () 08/05/2009 postreply 14:54:44

• 怎么了? 没看出原因呀? -gingergirl- ♀ (331 bytes) () 08/05/2009 postreply 15:09:34

• sorry for my poor English. too slow in typing Chinese. -zythx- ♂ (0 bytes) () 08/05/2009 postreply 16:00:53

• sounds as if you have no clue why she's divorcing you? -驭风而行- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/06/2009 postreply 07:06:31

• 回复：getting a divorce -mengxiao88- ♂ (540 bytes) () 08/09/2009 postreply 01:28:42

• Nothing wrong, just go ahead, -linksky- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/09/2009 postreply 11:08:12