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“Yeah fellas, do as you’ve been programmed.
Obediently do the following: 1/ paper chasing/degree 2/ job/career 3/ car/house.
After all that, as your parents led you to believe, maybe 72 vestigial virgins will magically fall into your lap, from which you choose one to marry happily ever after.”
That alone made it worth coming back to this page.
I am ashamed to admit it, but I have only recently come to this realisation (which is why I mentioned it above). Chinese are so formulaic. We always want predictability, assured results. My son must study hard, go to University, get a degree in Law, Medicine or accountancy. (Oh there are other degrees? I did not know that) Then qualify, then get a good job with PWC or whoever. Then meet a nice Chinese girl. Then get married and bear me grandchildren BALLS TO THAT!
(Meanwhile, whilst we are doing all this stuff and expect this prize to come, guys who didn’t do the formula but got a manual job are earning reasonable amounts (well if they are lucky enough to get a job) and they have married a sexy girl and had kids before you even bought the A4 pad for the new academic term.)
Surely all that predictability and safety kills the human spirit’s desire for exploration and intellectual growth. Zheng He was a genius and they locked him up!!!!
In Singapore in the 70′s they preached “two is enough”. Now the government is alarmed by the fall in Chinese birth rates. (They started the economic conditions in which Singaporeans live – massive flat prices etc – how can anyone afford a new flat to accommodate the new baby?) . They went OTT with academic study study study and suddenly realise that the kids are robots and they need to import white guys. Life is a great teacher, playing team games is a teacher, playing in mud is a teacher, living in the wild is a teacher, Not flipping computers and bookwork!
Now Lee Kuan Yew realises that his emphasis on academic excellence is not the be all and end all and he tells a PhD student for not getting married and having kids!
We can’t keep getting controlled by parent type figures with their arbitrary designs. We have to find our own way.
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But I am almost 50 years old now. I have seen a lot. If you were my sons, I would say “Be yourselves. Don’t believe a lot of the stuff the Chinese world cocoons you in. Take the good, reject the bad. The Manchus screwed up China because they would not learn from the so-called savage Westerners. Even the great Zheng He was ridiculed and imprisoned. If you don’t know who he is, shame on you. He was one of the greatest Chinese who ever lived. Get out there! ”
。。。。。。because essentially I want Chinese young men to not put up with the same crap that I have had to and to give us a good name and make it easier for the next generation of Chinese to be respected in the Western world that we live in. Don’t be afraid to be confrontational. Don’t be afraid to say no. Be honest – Like Bruce Lee said “Honestly express yourself”.
The other day, I met an English woman. You know what she said? “Chinese are so timid. When I was with my hu*****and I told him that the car in front was driven by a Chinese. He said “How do you know that?” It was because as we approached the car (presumably on in the inside lane on her left) it would pull to one side.” Listen if this old lady knew we were timid, and she knows hardly anything about the Chinese, that is the impression that others have of us and they will continue to bully us and take advantage of us, until we collectively become more assertive. I hear so many stories of young Chinese men who could not stand up for themselves in the workplace. It’s not because we have a persecution complex. We have standards enforced upon us by our parents that helped us (work ethic, respect for others etc) but that screwed us up and caused us to FAIL in our interaction with others who do not share our cultural values.
I am passionate about these issues and I am making a tit of myself because you will one day remember there was this weird old dude from UK who told me to ratchet it up a bit.
Go on take the piss out of me, but remember what I told you. You are a Chinese.