关于选择大学 - 我的看法

新的大学申请季节很快将开始.  跟大家谈谈我的经验.  声明一下: 我的二个孩子木有上常春藤。 因此，如果您想要听藤爸藤妈，请您绕道走.

请记住 - 是您的孩子申请大学，不是您.  whenever you have a problem, come back here.

1st thing to do is to talk to your kid about financial.  It will be great if you could afford the full price.  If not, you must let your kid know how much you can afford NOW.  The last thing you want to happen is that you can't afford the "dream school" you kid gets in.

2nd, give him/her your suggestions - why they should consider so and so.  Make sure you aim high.  My recommendation is 5 reach, 2 match and 1 safety.  For many parents, especially those who are doing this the first time.  One big mistake is to aplly to too many matches. But, do not force him/her to apply to certain school they don't want to.

3rd, talk to you kid about schools they like.  work together to pick some EA or ED.  You MUST do at least one EA.

4th. stand back and let your kid lead.  Give him or her a credit card for application fees.  Tell him/her: we are here to help.  The only thing we will do is to make sure you submit all the material on time.  Find out all the dealines and make yourself a excel file.  Do not wait until the last minute to check on the status.  Since your seniors will be very busy doing school works and E/C.  They will forget things. 

DO NOT READ their essay!!!! 

5th.  Establish a good relationship with your kid's GC at school.  Find out the teachers who will be writing recommedation letter etc. 

Optional - take them to visit some schools.  They said the kid will love the very first school they visit the most.  So choose that carefully. 

 

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• 理性的选择，顶一下 -又当爹来又当妈- ♀ (42 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:13:30

• thanks -Big_Benz- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:17:15

• 肺腑之言。再补点不一样的 -蓝调- ♀ (85 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:15:11

• very well said -Big_Benz- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:17:31

• 还应该考虑未来职业和学校的关系吧，本科硕士还是职业学校毕业后工作？ -mooseamoose- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:15:55

• let's talk about 未来职业和学校的关系 -Big_Benz- ♂ (374 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:20:51

• it's true: most ABCs do not go to graduate school -laoyangdelp- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:27:59

• 他们工作几年后又会change mind的，发现还是上学好玩。：） -enjoyer- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:36:53

• 我说的是职业学校，现在的就业市场，本科出来失业的不少吧，选什么职业当然要家长参与 -mooseamoose- ♂ (99 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:07:50

• 中国家长是不可能鼓励小孩勇敢追求的 - I don't look at that way -Big_Benz- ♂ (73 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:24:30

• 小孩的生活是他们的，家长不要参与，所以我说你是真的主流白人思维方式了 -mooseamoose- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:31:12

• 家长Must 要参与 -Big_Benz- ♂ (376 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:34:30

• 谢#0爸大奔。为什么at least one EA？ -enjoyer- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:16:18

• 回复：谢#0爸大奔。为什么at least one EA？ -Big_Benz- ♂ (161 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:22:19

• 大谢！ -enjoyer- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:34:22

• very well said! Thanks. -laoyangdelp- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:28:56

• The most important issue is: -Morning3evening4- ♂ (248 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:34:20

• Please don't go there. I know you are joking but others might n -Big_Benz- ♂ (497 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:40:51

• This is the real edge for kids from rich family huh.:). -Morning3evening4- ♂ (125 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:56:47

• 不许再提benz。别把大奔气回去了。：） -enjoyer- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:43:09

• As long as he uses this ID.;). -Morning3evening4- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:57:18

• Why not read the essay? -pangma- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:36:38

• Their essay is about telling who they are -Big_Benz- ♂ (210 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:43:29

• Thanks! -Rvlh- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:38:04

• 总体看，你的看法非常美国白人主流化 -mooseamoose- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:09:19

• 谢谢大家 -Big_Benz- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:36:15

• what are EA and ED? -hg57- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:51:32

• should be Early Action or Early Decision. -truebeliever- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:58:27

• Thanks for the great post on college applications! -sunshinecity- ♂ (1407 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 16:01:20

• 为什么不舍得把你的大奔卖了给孩子付学费呢? -(_!_)- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 16:13:35

• 有need-based FA，还仍然说付不起孩子的学费，属于抠门的家长。 -blwinter- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 16:42:20

• DO NOT READ their essay???? -mr22- ♀ (18604 bytes) () 08/01/2011 postreply 11:17:00

• I don't know if you believe or not, I do -sureucan- ♂ (0 bytes) () 08/02/2011 postreply 04:08:48

• 选择大学应该是孩子第一， 财务第二 -jianbety- ♂ (3259 bytes) () 08/06/2011 postreply 18:03:47