关于选择大学 - 我的看法

本帖于 2011-07-31 13:09:50 时间, 由普通用户 SwiperTheFox 编辑

新的大学申请季节很快将开始.  跟大家谈谈我的经验.  声明一下: 我的二个孩子木有上常春藤。 因此,如果您想要听藤爸藤妈,请您绕道走.

请记住 - 是您的孩子申请大学,不是您.  whenever you have a problem, come back here.

1st thing to do is to talk to your kid about financial.  It will be great if you could afford the full price.  If not, you must let your kid know how much you can afford NOW.  The last thing you want to happen is that you can't afford the "dream school" you kid gets in.

2nd, give him/her your suggestions - why they should consider so and so.  Make sure you aim high.  My recommendation is 5 reach, 2 match and 1 safety.  For many parents, especially those who are doing this the first time.  One big mistake is to aplly to too many matches. But, do not force him/her to apply to certain school they don't want to.

3rd, talk to you kid about schools they like.  work together to pick some EA or ED.  You MUST do at least one EA.

4th. stand back and let your kid lead.  Give him or her a credit card for application fees.  Tell him/her: we are here to help.  The only thing we will do is to make sure you submit all the material on time.  Find out all the dealines and make yourself a excel file.  Do not wait until the last minute to check on the status.  Since your seniors will be very busy doing school works and E/C.  They will forget things. 

DO NOT READ their essay!!!! 

5th.  Establish a good relationship with your kid's GC at school.  Find out the teachers who will be writing recommedation letter etc. 

Optional - take them to visit some schools.  They said the kid will love the very first school they visit the most.  So choose that carefully. 

 

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理性的选择,顶一下 -又当爹来又当妈- 给 又当爹来又当妈 发送悄悄话 又当爹来又当妈 的博客首页 (42 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:13:30

thanks -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:17:15

肺腑之言。再补点不一样的 -蓝调- 给 蓝调 发送悄悄话 蓝调 的博客首页 (85 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:15:11

very well said -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:17:31

还应该考虑未来职业和学校的关系吧,本科硕士还是职业学校毕业后工作? -mooseamoose- 给 mooseamoose 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:15:55

let's talk about 未来职业和学校的关系 -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (374 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:20:51

it's true: most ABCs do not go to graduate school -laoyangdelp- 给 laoyangdelp 发送悄悄话 laoyangdelp 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:27:59

他们工作几年后又会change mind的,发现还是上学好玩。:) -enjoyer- 给 enjoyer 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:36:53

我说的是职业学校,现在的就业市场,本科出来失业的不少吧,选什么职业当然要家长参与 -mooseamoose- 给 mooseamoose 发送悄悄话 (99 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:07:50

中国家长是不可能鼓励小孩勇敢追求的 - I don't look at that way -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (73 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:24:30

小孩的生活是他们的,家长不要参与,所以我说你是真的主流白人思维方式了 -mooseamoose- 给 mooseamoose 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:31:12

家长Must 要参与 -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (376 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:34:30

谢#0爸大奔。为什么at least one EA? -enjoyer- 给 enjoyer 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:16:18

回复:谢#0爸大奔。为什么at least one EA? -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (161 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:22:19

大谢! -enjoyer- 给 enjoyer 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:34:22

very well said! Thanks. -laoyangdelp- 给 laoyangdelp 发送悄悄话 laoyangdelp 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:28:56

The most important issue is: -Morning3evening4- 给 Morning3evening4 发送悄悄话 Morning3evening4 的博客首页 (248 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:34:20

Please don't go there. I know you are joking but others might n -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (497 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:40:51

This is the real edge for kids from rich family huh.:). -Morning3evening4- 给 Morning3evening4 发送悄悄话 Morning3evening4 的博客首页 (125 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:56:47

不许再提benz。别把大奔气回去了。:) -enjoyer- 给 enjoyer 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:43:09

As long as he uses this ID.;). -Morning3evening4- 给 Morning3evening4 发送悄悄话 Morning3evening4 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:57:18

Why not read the essay? -pangma- 给 pangma 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:36:38

Their essay is about telling who they are -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (210 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:43:29

Thanks! -Rvlh- 给 Rvlh 发送悄悄话 Rvlh 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 10:38:04

总体看,你的看法非常美国白人主流化 -mooseamoose- 给 mooseamoose 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:09:19

谢谢大家 -Big_Benz- 给 Big_Benz 发送悄悄话 Big_Benz 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:36:15

what are EA and ED? -hg57- 给 hg57 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:51:32

should be Early Action or Early Decision. -truebeliever- 给 truebeliever 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 11:58:27

Thanks for the great post on college applications! -sunshinecity- 给 sunshinecity 发送悄悄话 (1407 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 16:01:20

为什么不舍得把你的大奔卖了给孩子付学费呢? -(_!_)- 给 (_!_) 发送悄悄话 (_!_) 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 16:13:35

有need-based FA,还仍然说付不起孩子的学费,属于抠门的家长。 -blwinter- 给 blwinter 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/31/2011 postreply 16:42:20

DO NOT READ their essay???? -mr22- 给 mr22 发送悄悄话 (18604 bytes) () 08/01/2011 postreply 11:17:00

I don't know if you believe or not, I do -sureucan- 给 sureucan 发送悄悄话 sureucan 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 08/02/2011 postreply 04:08:48

选择大学应该是孩子第一, 财务第二 -jianbety- 给 jianbety 发送悄悄话 jianbety 的博客首页 (3259 bytes) () 08/06/2011 postreply 18:03:47

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