由于宝贝女儿的青春期，焦虑症以及全美嗜结合在一起，无忧对孩子们的初中生，高中生的学习生活有了进一步的了解和认识。
无忧七十几户的小房区，几乎每个中学孩子，尤其是女孩子都有些不同程度的压抑感问题，无忧了解到，在无忧宝贝女儿的高中，孩子们压抑感极为严重，有的孩子不得不医务心理治疗，不得不休学，甚至走向了严重的心理疾病。
而这种压抑感，很多是那些无聊,无知,无能的学生家长们，尤其是哪些没有什么别的生活，别的兴趣，别的事情，在家看孩子的亚裔妈妈们，死推,硬推,瞎推孩子们，把孩子们给逼迫的压抑感。
小学一年级，她逼迫孩子学习五年级的功课，初中她逼迫孩子学习高中的功课，高中她又强化孩子学习什么这个竞赛，那个比赛，还洋洋得意，觉得自己多么的了不得，自己孩子多么的聪明，到后来害了自己的孩子，也影响了他人的孩子，甚至破坏了整个社区的教育体系以及良好学习环境。
小小年纪，有的学生不得不退学，休学，有的勉强高中毕业，到了大学压抑感发作，后果不堪设想，好好的孩子就这样的给毁坏了。
下面是无忧写给美美的心理医生的电子短信,与大家分享，希望能够彼此警觉，压抑感是孩子们一大要命的危险。
Dr. XXX,
Just let you know that Meimei has made progress, though she is unwilling to do homework. This week, she goes to school, and sits in the class listening to teacher without much problem, I also notice that she beginning listening to mommy and me better and better. She becomes s a little bit rational and reasonable.
Last Sunday, I had a very a serious talk with her, and told her, “daddy is tired of your fussing over going to school, you’ve got to go to school, everyone has something to do and everyone has some responsibilities. Your responsibilities are to go to school and do some home work. You’ve got to listen to Dr. XXX, and do what Dr. XXX tells you to do. You have to sit in the class and listen to teacher and do some homework. Do the homework that you think you can do or do some easy ones for an hour and half, and then you can watch TV, or play face book, or whatever you like to do. “
And last night, I told her very seriously, “from now on, daddy will check your homework every day. It does not matter which home work or finish the homework or not, but you have to do homework for an hour and half. Daddy just wants to see that you have tried to do some homework for now.”
I also told her firmly,” never yell at mommy or at anyone, at least try not to, show your respect to mommy. Daddy can tolerate many things, but daddy never tolerates you not to show respects to others, especially to your mommy.”
A couple of times, I told her, “no one is perfect, including daddy. Everyone has some problems, including your friends, just face it, take it easy, and do as much as you can, no big deal. As long as you go to school and do some homework, you will be just fine.”
I also talked to Xiaomei’s school assistant principle and shared my concerns with her.
I kind of feel that your school emphasis too much on academic, but not enough on kid sport activities, and social behavior. I suggest the teachers at your school should teach kids more how to learn rather than just give them too much homework; encourage kids involve in more sports rather than just in books; remind parents that kids need more sleep; and watch out kids will be burned out of too much homework, too much study without enough physical sports activities and social involvements. It seems to me kids at age of 13, 14, 15 are the time to grow physically. They have to play well, sleep well, eat well, which are the most important in their life right now, not books. They have plenty time in their life to read books later on. They will never have a chance to grow again once they pass this growing age. A strong and healthy body is critical in their life later on, not books.
I am happy if Meimei can get A and go to a good college. However, I am still very happy if Meimei gets C, D, or goes to our county Community college. She is still my lovely girl. To me, good score in high school and good college means nothing. Good grade does not mean a good kid; good school does not guarantee a bright future. I see so many good grade students in school are later on not good at all, not even good enough, and most of times, the average grade kids in school turn out very good later on, much better than those good grade students at school.
I greatly appreciate any help that you offer to Meimei. Meimei is a beautiful and lovely kid. She will be just fine.
You can call me or send me an email about Meimei at anytime. By the way, can I have your office phone number?
Happy Thanksgiving
NoWorry
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