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不甘心的挫败

(2014-06-02 13:02:34) 下一个
从来没想到,跳舞跳着玩,竟然把这个玩儿的事跳认真了。

跳舞就跳吧,出去表演就表演吧。跳错了节拍就跳错了吧。不是用来糊口的工作,就是一个个人爱好,表演出错了应该一笑而过吧?没想到,自己现在还为这个错拍的事耿耿于怀。

事情的缘由是这样的。本来周末要参加一个表演。从服装准备,化妆,到开到目的地,心情已经紧张起来了。半路上就担心自己记错了地址和时间,错过了时辰。到了地方,老师说还有足够的时间准备,才稍微放松一下。换好了衣服,又在外场排演了几遍。心里虽然打鼓,但是安慰自己说,反正练过不少次了,应该没有问题。自己什么场面没见过,这点压力应该不会影响自己的表现。以前参加跑步比赛,上台做讲座,要说那时候的压力也不小。

到了我的时间,走进比赛厅。站位,音乐响起,好响啊。我和舞伴是背靠背,往相反方向走。亮相几步以后,一起转身往回走。我转身以后,应该看到同伴也正好转身。可是我看到的是他的背。我站在那边等着的时候,感觉是最长的等待。可是看到他转身以后,又忘了开始走。哎呀呀!后来只好尽快赶上他的步伐。虽然动作已经烂熟于心了,可是我发现自己的韵律和同伴的完全不搭。慢快快,慢快快,我根本无法计数。也怕自己计数,更错。以后的舞蹈进行得非常快。我看到观众席里鼓励的笑容,感到很温暖。心里已经觉得失误不计其数了,根本没有办法补救。只是尽力把舞蹈跳好,面带微笑,心里多些自嘲罢了。

结束的时候,同伴的安慰鼓励丝毫不能让我心里放松。感到最多的是失望和后悔。不过,这有什么用呢?我不断地提醒自己,过去的已经过去了,高高兴兴地珍惜出来玩的机会才对。但是,心里总是觉得有点堵。

我想起以前跑步和做讲座的时候,也有大意失荆州的几次。大多属于准备不充分吧。想我第一次出去比赛跑步,跟着别人的速度跑,用力过猛,后面没有力气冲刺。但是再以后的十年里,我坚持跑步,参加比赛。虽然不是体育健将,但是比一般人是快些的。到了美国十多年,跑步的习惯丢失了,只到最近两年才从新捡起这个锻炼的习惯。我没有减肥之前,总是这么说,我一定会减掉自己的体重的。因为我深信,只要我愿意,随时都会重新跑起来。

失败和挫折告诉我什么?挫败以后的郁闷教会我什么了?是重新回到战场的勇气。只有不断地去挑战自己,才有可能成功的一天。最终,你会爱上挑战的。

当我坐在那里看其他人翩翩起舞的时候,我突然意识到这些舞者的付出。每个人都克服了重重困难才来到这里。从他们轻盈的舞姿和灵巧的手势中,你看不到幕后的锻炼和重复练习。从他们戏谑的态度,或是不可小窥的气势中,你看不到他们的谦恭和面对问题时的气馁。只有你自己努力去做,却做不到的时候,你才能体会到,每一个人的努力和艰辛。跳舞,绝对不象看起来那么简单。

周末过后,我心里的懊恼还在。尽管我知道以后想起这段,可能会感谢这一次挫败的经历,会坦然一笑。但是挫败感只能用成功的喜悦来祛除。当我再次起舞的时候,我将更加热爱这项运动。让新的挑战尽早开始吧。。。


I never thought that I would get upset by a dance show. I never thought that I would get so seriously about a hobby. It happened like this:
Last weekend, I had a dance show to attend. The night before, I stayed late to get my dresses, shoes, and make-up kits ready. In the morning, I put on make-up, false eye lashes, the whole nine yard. Before heading to the high way, I also checked the dance gears twice to make sure I got everything I need, plus back-up dance gears. When I arrived the place, I was told that I still got plenty of time to prepare. After I changed into my dress, I practiced my routine several times. I got butterfly in my tummy. It reminded the old time when I entered the race back in the middle school, the high school and the college. I was nervous. 

I told myself, relax. It is just a leisure hobby. I was in long-distance race, I gave presentation on the stage. I practiced this routine many times. I got this. 

When it is the time, we entered the show-room. When the music started, it was loud. But I danced. I and my partern were back-to-back, walking away. Then I turned around. I was supposed to see him just turn around, and then we were supposed to walk towards each other. In stead, I saw his back!!! I waited... When he finanlly turned, I forgot to move. What happened next was fast. I tried to catch up with him. I cannot hear the beat, and I felt he was moving at the different tempo from mine. I saw audiance with encouraging smiles. They made me feel comfortable. I just managed to keep calm and smiling and finished the dance. It was so messed-up, that I thought all I can do is to show my best.

It was definitely a set-back. When my friends were comforting me, I cannot be cheered up. I kept telling myself that it is OK, and I am enoying the other fun stuff at the show. But deep inside, I was disappointed. It does not matter what other say and how possitive you are, it sucks.

I remembered the first time I was in a race. I did terribly. I pushed myself too fast in the beginning, so at the end I could not keep it up. It ended worse than I expected. But I went on and practice more running. I kept that habit for 10 years. And I pick up running as an excercise rountine after 10 years without doing it. Running has become a source of my happiness and confidence. I know whenever I want it, I would always be able to enjoy it. What failures, mistakes and associated pain can teach you? Courage. The self-motivation that keeps you coming back to the things you love.

When I sat there, admiring others' performance, I realized how difficult it is for them to be there, how much hard work and dedication they put into it. You don't see it when you see the graceful movements floating through the dance floor. You don't see it when you are pumped up by the powerful steps and funky attitute. You feel it when you tried and you could not do it. It is not as easy as it seems. 

Well, still disappointed, I am making peace with myself. Next time, there is always hope. Until next time, my friend....  
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天边的蔷薇 回复 悄悄话 每个美丽的舞者背后都有着辛勤的汗水和努力,深深知道“台上一分钟,台下十年功”的含义。祝你越跳越好!
40er 回复 悄悄话 Thanks a lot for your encouragement. When I first started this, I thought most of the students just think it as a leisure hobby. One of the dance teacher told me, "You open a door to a wonderful world." Now, I understand what he meant. I meet quiet a handful of students stayed in the program for years. Off the dance floor, they are the most common, even a little bit quite people. Dance is the way they express themselves and they really love dancing.
Once my teacher wanna comfort me because I am about to see a video of my dance. "Don't feel bad if the video does not look good. Everyone always say, I should have put my feet the other way, " he said. I told him, "I will not feel bad, because I can always look at my previous video. It will make this look better." No one and nothing can take away my joy and pride in dancing, because I put my heart into it. I owe myself happiness.
Know what you love and keep doing it! My friend.
greenlawn 回复 悄悄话 确实是这样,需要往前看,需要好多好多新的尝试和挑战。只要你真地动了脑筋思考了对策,真地认真准备了,临场发挥的技能会随着比赛次数的增加和你对舞步的熟练而自己增加的,只要你真地努力在成为强者,并为止咬牙,为之奋斗,不管最后拿不拿奖,你都会赢得喝彩。人的强大的精神是最感染人鼓励人的。

为你能够把舞蹈坚持到最后而喝彩!你一定会越来越强大。
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