真的想让我答应与？OK, your wish is my command.

Yeah, yeah keep talking. Everything you are saying is strictly from your own perspective. Ok? Sure, parents aren't living for their kids, but that doesn't mean parents don't play a role in determining your child's destiny. There's a reason children live with their parents until 18 years old - it's because parents make major decisions for their children that are quite often, irreversible. 

If as parents, you leave your children in China, there is nothing wrong with that. You leave them in their home country because your son/daughter is Chinese. They are where they are supposed to be. God made them Chinese. But it is your conscious choice to come to America, to bring your kids, who have NOT yet fully acquired their native Mandarin language, to a place (Western Society) that in reality doesn't respect Chinese people, and probably never will. That is your responsiblity to make sure that such a choice is conducive for your children's future!

Case in point - if I bring my future children to Africa, where they are surrounded by black indigenous people, and they grow up not being able to fit in, are you realistically telling me with a straight face that as parents I have zero responsibility in this? This logic is absurd and extremely irresponsible! If as parents, you conciously bring your children out of their natural culture into another foreign country, and they grow up only to find they don't fit in, then are you seriously telling me as parents you have zero responsibility in all of this? Give me a joke!

I have said enough about my point and I rest my case, peacefully :)