今天收到老师的email:
This was a hurtful insult that you said straight to his face in front of other students. You intended to make him feel embarrassed. You probably caused him to feel terrible about his teeth. I am not sure if you are mature enough to understand this, but people usually insult others when they feel insecure about themselves. It sounds like you need to have a conversation with your family about ways that you can learn to be kind and also deal with insecurities that you may have.
Mr. xxx
我们当然批评他了,也听他讲了事情的经过,基本上就是他们group drama performance 搞砸了,他和另一娃互相埋怨,他就口不择言,攻击别人。这当然不能成为他这样说的托词,我苦口婆心的讲道理,要尊重人,对事不对人,他似乎也听进去了。我和他都写了回信给老师。
现在的问题是,这娃似乎真的太不成熟了,几乎每年都有这么一两次这样的事件,每次我和他爸都各种道理讲尽,还告诉他具体怎么控制情绪,三思而后行,开合理的玩笑,尊重别人的感受。他每次都听得,至少当时是自我批评加决心改正。可是好像就是不开窍啊。
自问我们普通双职工,一直亲自带娃,满满的爱,behavior 严格要求。爹妈都还是情商可以. 娃也12岁了,不求他八面玲珑,但要有为人处世的common sense吧。学习和体育都挺好,在家很讲道理。朋友家长反映也不错。可就是在学校,就是会时不时冒犯别人,甚至老师。好像在那个环境下就不会作人了。
旁观者清,大家给我指点指点吧,