To SQXSQX

Tell your husband to back off from this poor girl. I literally see her begging, with heart bledding, desperately struggling under his authoritarian control. Why does your husband stil act like a piece of cold stone? Why does he prioritize the need to be right over the recognition of her suffering? 

Back off! If you need to divorce him, do it! For the sake of your daughter's life, a young life, which hasn't opened her petals yet. She has so much potential that can be unlocked when free.

I was crying while I was reading it, as a mere stranger, but also as a mother of two daughters, and also a daughter of my father. I was in those shoes before, I knew her pain like it was cutting into my skin.

You can't persuade your husband, he is deadly blocked like a deaf person. Save your time. Your daughter is so gentle, so patient, and so wise. She will definitely be successful in her way. Leave her alone, let her try, she will be okay. Already her maturity and ability to express herself is beond her years. Let her decide her own path away from your husband and she will do much better than being enslaved under your husband's whip. He is drunk on control and blind. Just as you would not allow a drunk, angry person to drive your car, do not let your husband drive your family off the cliff.

I can't even explain it any better than what your daughter has done. The problem is not on your daughter's side, it's on your husband. He treats a human like a machine, poor thing, he doesn't understand a bit of emotion. To him, he just wants to be always superior. He toys your daughter like his own puppet, he decides your daughter's breath, sight, mind, existence. The most outrageous part is that he even puts such an enormous burden on your daughter, by claiming she needs to be responsible to everyone else, as she owes the whole world. This is not the tough love he believes he is giving. He is delusional. This is someone who, with his own image of unattainable success, is ready to tread upon his own daughter to squash imaginary failure out of her. At the same time he is obstinate like a child, unwilling to recognize his own faults. I don't know how, under such a father, a male dominant figure, how can a girl ever grow up as an independant and confident woman, with sufficient self-esteem to be happy with the rest of her adult life? This is abuse. Your husband is abusing your daughter, beating her physically, and worse, emotionally.

Your daughter is a blossom that can bloom into her own successful, independent, dazzling flower. Don't let your husband crush the bud befofe it opens because her petals are not the colors he wants.

Back off before it's too late! 

所有跟帖： 

• 爸爸不是错了，是病了 -blue005- ♂ (351 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 02:54:38

• 有道理，我也觉着这爸爸有些personal disorder such as OCPD -0913- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 03:50:14

• 呵呵，这样行使暴力的人居然还值得被受害者去安慰体谅？真是有愿意受虐的。 -princessonthepea- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 04:59:01

• 碰到有病的，首先要保证自己和其他亲人的安全，不被此人伤害 -tgmomtobe- ♀ (211 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 05:09:41

• 这个爸爸是典型的控制型人格，女儿的信写的很清楚家里其他三个成员都被他打过，也就是老婆 -2008VGirl- ♀ (147 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 05:38:46

• 是啊，打的还挺重的，而且完全不愧疚都是别人的错。这个妈妈没保护好自己和孩子也有错。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 06:01:00

• 是我的话，先带女儿搬出去住到高中毕业，切断她和爸爸的联系 -Vbaby- ♀ (38 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 05:31:59

• 完全赞同。为了女儿和自己，一定要先离开他，以后根据情况再作两人关系的处理。 -老文学城- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 06:21:41

• 他自己做到better, best了吗？自己没做到，先push自己做到再说，然后再来push 孩子，不要让孩子去实现自己没实现的 -mickey222- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 05:37:27

• 宁拆三座庙不拆一桩婚。各位是气过头了，出的注意馊到家。 -money4ivy- ♀ (80 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 06:38:32

• 你看了那女儿的信了吗？ -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 06:42:00

• 还有一句俗话叫为母则强，当妈的不能让儿女生活在toxic的环境里啊 -夏云- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 07:38:11

• 这个妈妈没保护好孩子，太糊涂 -simplylove- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:46:52

• 昨天大伙儿供献不少了，也说得很全面，可以翻篇了。有些家庭内部的事就让当事人自己妥善处理吧。 -xioduo- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 06:39:27

• 恩。女孩子好可怜。 -incywincy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 06:49:24

• 也许让孩子去社会上混两年，回头看看她老爹还是不错的。 -窈窈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 06:59:12

• 一万个路人甲也不会让一个人觉得worthless。 -incywincy- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:15:30

• 关键妈妈太宠娃了。难道作业拖着不做还能容。 -窈窈- ♀ (398 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:22:33

• 这话在理，我也是这么想的。 -窈窈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:44:36

• 我觉得让她老公看看大家的回帖，也许会有帮助？大家这么一边倒的回复，那个老公应该有所醒悟吧。 -N.- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 07:50:02

• 偏执的人会觉得全世界人都跟他做对。或者悔过2天，过后一样 -greenoasis- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:28:54

• 不会的，这种人是全世界都错了，就他是对的。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 09:19:43

• 女孩太温和软弱，和她爸这样的人有啥好交流的。冷处理不理睬，他要持续找事发脾气甚至动手，打电话找警察给关起来。 -simplylove- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:24:51

• 别啊。千万别找警察。自己家解决不了的问题找警察就解决了？只有越来越麻烦 -greenoasis- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:28:05

• 前提是他不断主动挑事，影响家庭正常运行。只能强制他不骚扰女儿。这个妈妈也没策略，只知道吵 -simplylove- ♀ (68 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:33:58

• 千万不可以,叫警察,一个家庭灾难的开始。切忌! -太浩湖畔- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:39:40

• 有的人不管怎么样就是不能 leave people alone, 还能怎么办？ 只能破釜沉舟 -simplylove- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 08:44:10

• 你看女儿的信了吗？拿尺子打孩子打到孩子身上淤青两周都不退，太让人心疼了。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2016 postreply 09:21:53