To help nine- to 12-year-old youth develop a healthy sexuality, families should:
Help young people understand puberty and the changes they are going through and that these changes, including menstruation and nocturnal emissions (ejaculation), are normal.
Respect young people's privacy while encouraging open communication .
Convey that growth and maturation rates differ from person to person.
Help young people understand that, while they are maturing physically, they still have lots of emotional and cognitive growth ahead and that sexual intercourse is not healthy, appropriate, or wise at this time in their lives.
Acknowledge that abstinence is normal and healthy, that sexual development is healthy and natural, and that, as they grow older, there will be many ways to express sexuality that do not include sexual intercourse.
Discuss the important relationship between sexual and emotional feelings.
Be open to conversations about contraception and condoms and respond honestly and accurately when young people ask about them.
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