Should I hold my son back for 4th grade

The cut-off in my area is December. My child started kindergarten at 4 and did not turn 5 until November, so he's the youngest in the class. Now he's only 9 in 4th grade.

My son had a very difficult time in 4th grade. He did poorly in science and writing, and his writing skills are below grade level. Although he scores high in word usage and his math is quite good,
his spelling and writing skills are poor. His reading is on or slightly above grade level.

He has a difficult time retaining information unless he hears it more than once.
His attention span is not very long,
but there seems to be no learning disability.

I am considering having him repeat 4th grade. He may need another year developmentally,
 

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• 问问老师们的意见，他们应该对你儿子了解更多。 -芹菜妈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 15:50:50

• 回复：问问老师们的意见，他们应该对你儿子了解更多。 -sap200- ♂ (128 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 15:54:30

• 你儿子很正常，有的孩子就是天生磨蹭。对这些孩子，家长要特别费心， -芹菜妈- ♀ (53 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:11:57

• I would if he agrees. -CirrusCloud- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:01:10

• He's only afraid his friend will tease him. beside that, he like -sap200- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:07:01

• 如果能换个学校最好，如不能他不在意就行。 -CirrusCloud- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:16:51

• 支持。晚一年，从容些，高中时会更突显留一年的好处。 -So_Be_It- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:02:41

• 如果你能把他送其他的学校，比如私立一两年，就再上一次4年纪吧。 -N.- ♀ (37 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:05:43

• 如果是公立学校，恐怕不会同意你儿子重读四年级吧 -小睿儿- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:07:44

• 在我们学校很难 -JYYXHEN- ♀ (30 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:09:23

• I can let him go to private school for a year or two. But not su -sap200- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:26:07

• 如果他愿意的话。已经过了holdback的最佳年龄。 -壮士- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:25:50

• I agree已经过了holdback的最佳年龄, but don't want him keep struggle for t -sap200- ♂ (101 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:27:45

• 因为他是男孩子。我会非常顾虑对他自尊和自信的影响。那些比成绩更重要。转学是一个办法。 -壮士- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:31:49

• I totally agree顾虑对他自尊和自信的影响. wish I can do this earlier. -sap200- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:39:29

• 这最好和老师商量，四年级有一点晚了，尤其考虑到对孩子心理和社交方面打击 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:34:15

• 换学校就没问题。 -monochrome- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:39:24

• 悄声问一句，这不是正常上学年龄吗？我估算下我儿子四年级开始也没到9岁呀？ -保持好心情- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:42:17

• 子女教育：我'帮'孩子学英文。 - 由lihuama发表- 文学城 -lihuama- ♀ (2434 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:52:04

• 有过很多调查研究证明重读不对学生的学业造成significant 影响。孩子的智力发展有时是一夜 -笑薇.- ♀ (49 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 16:45:48

• 自己在家多帮他一些，阅读写作也在练，再多交给老师一年看不出会有多少帮助。 -Rock.rose- ♀ (65 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 17:12:26

• 你的儿子不是个笨小孩，他只是需要多一点的帮助， -rock.rose- ♀ (193 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 17:28:09

• 留级好！ -edison11- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 17:14:10

• 这个还真不好说 -怪哉- ♂ (229 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 17:26:33

• It might be a good idea let him study in China for one year, the -志在千里- ♀ (1895 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 17:55:07

• 去中国读一年，然后留一级，学到真东西。目前孩子升入大藤。全A -志在千里- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 18:12:16

• 暑假补课为好。尤其要找到问题的根源。否则蹲一次，过三年还得再蹲一次。 -大号蚂蚁- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 18:17:39

• 你还应该考虑一下还有别的办法帮他。并不是年龄越大的孩子学习越好。 -MMMMM06- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 19:07:36

• 在美国是留级，去中国读一年是GapYear。老美流行的。大学AO喜欢的。呵呵。 -志在千里- ♀ (2012 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 19:41:38

• My son is 9, in 4th grade. His birthday is behind cut-off date. -家有淘气- ♀ (853 bytes) () 04/28/2014 postreply 19:49:55

• my neighbor let his daughter repeated 6th grade. when her classm -郁金香花园- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/29/2014 postreply 00:00:40

• when her classmates moved to middle school. -郁金香花园- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/29/2014 postreply 00:01:49