我喜欢的一个作家：快乐的孩子，跟随你的心

 

为什么要学习﹖《做个快乐少年人》选节 

 
你有没有怀疑过：“我为什么要学习代数?我想成为律师?”或者“谁会对凯撒大帝有兴趣?我想成为会计师。” 当你离开学校以后，你也许永远都不用懂什么是二元二次方程式?或凯撒大帝　了。但上学除了学习以外，还包括：  
找出你对什么东西感兴趣。从学习多样科目?例如：地理、物理、计算机、数学、语言等　中找出你喜欢什么和不喜欢什么。这样对你将来有帮助。?你觉得合理吗﹖　  
学习怎样做事。也许你讨厌数学，但是你用来解决方程式和几何问题的逻辑思维也可以用来解决你生命中遇到的难题，我们说的是磨练和武装你的脑袋。（就好像短跑选手用举重来锻炼身体，你利用“思考重担”来锻炼头脑。）
加强自信。你也许在学校学习法语，而你根本不需要说法语。但是，这样你便能证明你是有能力学习语言的。或者有一天你得到一份在里约热内卢的工作，那时你就可以对自己说：“我可以胜任这份工作。我以前的法语课只差一点便及格了?现在我也可以学点葡萄牙语。”
     你或者会想：“如果学校的功课不是那么难、那么深的话，我会很快乐的！”错！你才不会呢！ 假设我是你的数学老师。如果我对你说：“今天我们来做一些轻松的数学。你一定会喜欢的。这就是今天的题目。你有三个小时去找出答案。” 你会说：“这简直是侮辱我的智力?赶走这笨蛋老师吧，给我一点挑战！”  
     挑战使生活刺激。在任何地方我们都看到人们在挑战自己。这是我们玩“任天堂”和其他计算机游戏的原因。这些游戏都是高难度的。我们想要挑战自己，就需要向更高的难度进升。 回想一下你学会系鞋带时有多高兴，学会骑自行车的那一天你有多自豪，你没有改变?你在解决了问题时是最快乐的。那时候你便看到自己有多少本事。 不要再假装我们希望生活变得很容易。当事情变得太容易时，我们便会觉得沉闷而离开，去找寻新的挑战。  

 

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“What is more important than being happy?” Andrew Matthews asked the audience in a seminar I attended 6 weeks back. He then started to draw funny little cartoons and continued “I learnt to draw in school during mathematics!”

Everyone bursted into laughter.

In case you don’t know who Andrew Matthews is, let me give you a little introduction. He is an international speaker on “attitude“, “being happy“, “success” and “prosperity” and the best-selling author of motivation and personal development classics like “Being Happy!” and “Follow your heart“.

 

Andrew is an extraordinary man and I would like to share with you what I learnt about happiness from him. Are you ready to know the 10 secrets to happiness? Listen up!

1) Be happy where you are now

Right now! Be thankful for what you have, instead of moaning about what you lack. Be satisfied with what you have when you are in pursuit of what you want.

2) Happiness, more than anything, is a choice we make every day

Happiness is a conscious decision. You choose to be happy today or you choose to be miserable. Your action/reaction is determined by how you choose to perceive a situation. Andrew gave an amusing illustration of a couple surrounded by a pack of crocodiles. The man thought “OMG Crocodiles!” while his wife thought “OMG Handbags!”

3) Happiness is understanding the things we can’t change yet and working on those we can

Some things are hard to change overnight. It’s unusual to change from a pauper into a millionaire in a day. Happiness is knowing that some things take more time. We can start by working on what we can change immediately.

4) Put a smile on your face. It changes how you think.

I was teaching a friend to ice-skate last Friday evening and there was this beautiful girl I met while getting a drink. She smiled as we both walked towards the vending machine. I smiled back and allowed her to buy her drink first.

While on the ice-skating rink, we passed each other a couple of times. I was trying to keep my friend on his feet while she was falling happily on the ice with hers. Our eyes met again. She smiled and I smiled back.

Then as she was making her way out of the rink, I smiled and waved goodbye. She smiled back. I could hear her friends asking “Is that your friend?” I didn’t catch her reply but I remembered her turning towards me with another smile. I returned the smile with a wave to her bewildered friends.

We didn’t exchange a single word. We didn’t need to. The smiles were enough to brighten up both our days.

5) Whatever you get, accept it and deal with it

All too often, when something bad happens, we are too quick to point fingers and start placing blame on everyone else. Happiness is about accepting responsibility and dealing with what comes your way. Blaming the whole world is not going to solve anything.

6) Problems = Catalyst to take Action

Andrew advises to see problems as a catalyst for us to take action. Problems are good teachers, so learn to love them. Next time, when you face a problem at work/in business, remember to run up to your boss/partner and say, “We have a huge opportunity!”

7) Learn from the elephants!

How do you eat an elephant?
Answer: One bite at a time.

What did the elephant say to the naked man?
Answer: How do you breathe through that thing?

8) Put everything you have into whatever you are doing now

Do your best (100%) and life will support you!

9) It’s not what you get. It’s what you become that matters

Know what to expect – Expect a better you.

10) No one else is going to make you happier. Work on yourself.

A lot of people get things mixed up. A wife thinks about all the bad things her hu*****and does while a widow remembers all the good stuff. That is the ultimate recipe for misery! Isn’t it better to switch the lists around?

 

Work on your mindset. See things from a positive light.

Conclusion

Happiness is in the way you think. No one can make you happy except yourself. To conclude this article on happiness, I would like to share with you a video of an extraordinary dog (Faith, the two legged dog). I hope Faith will teach you something about happiness that goes beyond words.

 

Happiness In A Nutshell

November 28, 2007 — Zubli Zainordin

Newsletter # 57
Three Words What is the theme of almost every song ever sung - and almost every movie ever made? LOVE. Lost love, found love, risky love, scorned love. It’s endless! We just want love! Almost everything we do is an attempt to get more love. We buy cool clothes and flash cars. We climb the corporate ladder. We do crash diets, get Botox and pierce body parts. Everyone you pass on the street and everyone who has ever walked into your office is aching for love and acceptance - and some of us are doing crazy things to get it. We figure: “If I look sexy, people will love me.” “If I am clever, people will love me.” “If I am successful and 97% wrinkle free, people will love me.” We can get so busy trying to find love that we forget to love the people we care about … Fred says, “I told my wife last month that ! I love her. Doesn’t she remember?” She remembers, Fred, but she wants to be told every month. Actually, she wants to be told every day. Children want to hear it. Little Johnny is born. Dad hugs him daily and tells him, “Daddy loves you!” … until he’s about six. Then Dad decides, “My son is becoming a man.” He stops telling Johnny, “I love you.” He stops cuddling Johnny. And Johnny wonders, “Doesn’t Dad love me any more?” I’ve lost count of the number of grown men that have told me at one time or another: “All I wanted my whole life was for my Dad to tell me he was proud of me – that he loved me.” It is in times of tragedy that we are reminded about what matters most. That’s when people say “If only I had told him …” IN A NUTSHELL To say “I love you” costs so little and means so much. And whenever it is too hard to say, “I love you”, “thank you” is a good start.

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