If you teach your daughter the independent American way, why don't you also show her the straight forward way American way of refusing unreasonable demands? I definitely feel there's something abnormal in that your daughter would just do what your friends' daughters tell her to do. You are not raising her to be a maid.
It's good to teach her to be responsible and clean after herself. And it's just as important to make sure that she will not be abused by others.
It's good to teach her to be responsible and clean after herself. And it's just as important to make sure that she will not be abused by others.