Just to keep the records straight

I have never disputed your "cool-headed" comment (Why should I?). You are entitled to think that.

I didn't start over at 22. If your read my post carefully, at 22, I was unable to pick myself up and date someone else. That lasted more than 2 years which made me 24. After that, I made my long term relationship mistakes until I found my hu*****and. My hu*****and didn't come to me early enough to save me:) So speaking of luck, I have friends who married their high school sweet hearts happily while I had to go through all the searching and hurting. I don't know why you think I am lucky. But again, you can think that if you want to.

Naive is not a bad word. It is proper in the context.

You said "not because you are smarter and more mature than others". Are you implying that I think I am smarter or more mature? If so, you are wrong.

If you want to advocate for "peng(4)", go ahead and good luck:) I have expressed myself enough.