When we do everything for the child,

 

there is a possibility that it is more about us, less about the child.  We should be more conscious about it.

When everything is done for the child, she does not get a chance to do those things herself and succeed by overcoming difficulties, which is the source of her self-esteem, i.e., confidence in knowing that she can do it.

By being given everything, she does not get a chance to develop a longing for the affection, the emotional connection with the parents, the material stuff substituted.  When we are old and like her to visit more, what is the driving force for her to come, that longing conditioned in childhood would be a big part of it.

By giving her more opportunities to experience the "self" within her, she'd know better who SHE is, and does not need that boy, or anyone else, to tell her about that.