How do you help them 和人相处,适应生活和社会?

Force them to obey and do things? These kids do well with higher levels of reasoning, but are very resistent to forcing. Forcing is the most ineffective way of making things happen. That is why the parents have to learn how the kids think first before they can find an effective way to help them fit into this society and people, the society that assumes a lot of things. For mediocre parents with a gifted kid, the parents have to learn how kids think (because the parents do not think the same way) and find an effective way to communicate with them so that they will truely take in what you said.