When kids are young, parents can forcefully ask them

to do things, small things like cleaning up after themselves. But how much longer can we do that before they shut themselves up to us? The challenge is much much harder when one has a special need child. I don't think anybody in their right mind want to have a true 天才 kid. That almost surely indicates a brain developmental problem (like high performance Aspergus syndrome). However, there are many gifted kids, and many of these kids have special needs (not abnormal). All the books about parenting for regular kids do not work for them. I don't think any parents can wishfully decide that they can 让谁当天才. When you see your kids suffer because of his/her uniqueness, you will want to know how they think, how your action may influence their dialy life as simple as being interested in school so that you do not unwillingly hurt them even more. Again as I said (and with all due respect), consider yourself lucky if your kids have not challenged you in such a way. You will know if you have a special need child. You don't need experts to tell you and you don't need those IQ tests either. If you have to think whether you do or not, you don't.