Sounds like a good plan.

 

There are two kinds of child neglect, one is physical and the other is emotional.  Your child does not seem physically neglected, but if you leave him to your husband, he may be emotionally neglected.

Make sure the child's physical needs are met (food, clothing, furniture, hygiene, physical and intellectual development, etc..)  When he has issues that you are concerned with, talk to his father first and do as you have planned.

When talking to the child, do not blame what he did, but try to find out what is behind, e.g., "You haven't been yourself lately, that's why you slammed the door on your father. There must be something bothering you at school? ..."

Chat with him more when everything is well so that he feels safe to mention something not good.  When you hear it, you first reaction is not to fix blame, but ask what he thinks.  Show him that you are willing to shoulder your responsibility.

Show gratitude and teach him to be grateful for his good fortune to be here and in this time in world history.  Have him say thank you to the ones who helped him.  A grateful child is a happy child.

 

Happy holidays.