very touching story from you, keep both:)

Your kindness and police's lesson to him.

Then, I think to be kind doesn't lead to effectiveness of help to him. You need to keep your kindness while think what's the true point he is really badly needed for help.

To maintain this help mind to him is very very important even after a divorce. Recently I realise and believe more and more that only when you make people around you better, your life will be better, no matter who he is and how he is. The poor guy is your hun*****and or ex in future and your kid's father forever. Open minded and think again about the effectiveness in a calm manner.