thanks for your inputs.You might be right,

but we really did not  have any problem or any pressure, even financially, though I did not have a job for a year.  And it was kid of that I quited the job and tried to look for another better opportunity.  I took it as I was taking vocation and relex a little bit after working so many years without  a real break. 

however, I don't know why, but she did have presure on herself to be perfect. I am sitll not quite sure where the pressure on her comes from.