From what you have described, their relationship as

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coworkers are a bit too close. However, it appears the closeness is initiated more by the girl. I do not see what your H did to be close to the girl. It might just be he did not know how to handle the extra enthusiastics from the coworker. Or he might feel a bit flattered by the girl's extra freiendship.