loving but firm, you are in control

Set a regular routine, and let the child know what to expect next.

Let him understand that he needs to listent to mommy and daddy, Don't give in whenever he cries.

我的孩子试过大哭，耍赖，我们很平静地告诉他，他这样是没用的。你不理他，他也就放弃了。饭前不吃零食，饭要吃完，不吃完，不能玩。实在不吃，就饿到下顿。他一下就记住了。你受不了他的哭声，就到另一个屋子自己安静一下。要告诉孩子，他安静下来，妈妈才能帮助他。

Have enough physical activity, running, climbing during the day, that will exhaust him and put him to sleep faster. Avoiding watching "too stimulating TV programs" before bedtime.

平时，他不闹时，多表扬，认可，让他知道妈妈喜欢他怎样的行为。It is called positive reinforcement.