讲话以前先想想会不会伤害别人的感情 - Did I say it at the beginni

That this is a Candid question - that my post may be cut by DC, or many people will throw bricks...

I told everyone this is not a Sweet Talk, it is a CANDID, (meaning hard, harsh, no place to hide, in this context) question - that you either choose to face it, and throw your bricks, or to ignore it and turn your head.