zt: What does a man say what a woman he wants to marry.
My name is Jon - I sent my wife's name to you so that
I could receive your emails. I have read several of them
and I have some comments.
First I am 55 years old and have been married to my wife
for 27 years. Prior to my wife I dated many women whom
I just did not click with. It seemed that every girl I
dated fell in "love" with me and tried to control
everything I was doing. For a while I dated only married
women because of the pressure many women put on me to get
married. The logic being if they were married they wouldn't
pressure me to get married. That worked and I was quite
happy for a long time.
Then I met my wife at a Kentucky Fried Chicken store of
all places. I asked her out and she said yes. Donna was
different in that she NEEDED me. And she would do the
womanly things for me. I am not talking about sex here.
I guess you could say she was nurturing me.
I know most women likely don't want to hear this and men
either are not aware of this in themselves or will deny
that this is so. However looking back on my life and my
interaction with women I can see more clearly.
We always hear how men are fearful of take-charge women
and how they simply cannot handle this new kind of woman.
[I don't think it is fear but the fact that men don't
feel needed by them.] Men need to protect and conquer.
This is why most men withdraw from the so called powerful
woman.
Give a man the opportunity to protect his "fort," his wife-
to-be and his family to come, and any woman will open a door
to a very loving and protective man who will give his heart
to her willingly.
I hope this email will be of use to you and your readers.
Sincerely,
Jon"
